PixelPie wrote:

swtbabygrl wrote:

PixelPie wrote:

You have to let go of what people have told you. And focus on what you want only. Bad news will happen and that is due to things you were worried about before now. Really life is always the after effect to what we focus on before. So once you change your thinking
Real life will start to change to match the new things you thing about. It won't happen over night at 1st. So let's take this one day at a time. Ok? ☺. Have you read anything in the immediate alignment thread?

yeah right now I'm having a very difficult time, he is asking me to give his money back that we had saved up together. like he is really mad because I am not giving to him like right now, i told him to give me time to cash it out.. I'm getting really stressed out right now, i need to visualize more in my head and keep saying my affirmations out loud now.. 

Don't stress treat him like a business deal when it comes to the money. You let him know you will get it to him asap. Act neutral like it's business only (because it when it comes to the money). Then send him the money if it in the bank you should be about just to wire it from your account to his (if you live in the U.S. this is super easy to do. If not it still should be hard to get you bank to do this for you).

Ok so now that's done. That way you keep nc You don't even have to talk to him again about the money. You've already told him you will get it so send it to him. And focus on forgiving everything that means you, him, and the whole thing. You must forgive before you came move into the mindset of getting him back. After you've done that use vizualizion, scripting, and anything that helps you believe you have what you want. And be thankful for having it (you new better relationship with him) even when you can not see it yet. Be thankful for whatever good thing you have right now too. And it will come.

thank you so much i'll try my very best, i'll continue to read around the forum to learn new information to follow. 

Just stop listening to other people and thinking this is hopeless. If you think it's hopeless, you will never get what you want. So really really focus on aaall the good things that you want and feel good about everything. Trust that everythings happens for a good reason, maybe him thinking about moving to the south might even make him realize how he misses you. Just don't analyze things too much and don't worry, nothing is hopeless unless you believe it is. wish you all the best!

here's an update;

yesterday i texted him back and told him i went out for a walk w/ my son and that i fell, he texted me back and told me to protect myself to not get hurt. i sent him a photo of my ankle of the mini bruise i got, he texted back and was surprised. i told him it still hurt and he texted back saying something along the lines of rest/heal so that i can get back to my gym routine. i texted back 3 hours later saying i appreciate his support and that i always liked watching him play ball when I'm at the gym... he texted back saying he's getting old now, i texted him and said to don't give up on his passion... then i went to take a shower.. i got out and i saw a text him him asking if i have cash (some money i owe him) and then he came to my house and we met so i can give him the cash, i hugged him and he hugged me back i was expecting to let go after a half second hug but he held on for few seconds more, we talk for maybe 1-2 minutes and then he left.. 30 minutes later he sent me a photo of his food that he had bought with the money he said he hasn't been eating good lately since he left. 

he told me he was craving meat and i said what meat and then he said  "if only you drove we can meet at X place" and i told him I'm trying get a car soon and he can pick me up in the meantime if he wanted to eat with me" he said "wait until he goes down a few pounds before he eats all the meat" I sent him a video of my son saying he misses him and he texted back "nice blanket" not sure why he said that, i mean the blanket on my bed is his i guess. I texted back and said thx it helps me sleep.

so after my last text last night i haven't heard any response back from him. i still owe him his other portion of the money that i need to cash out, we'll maybe end up exchanging it when i go to the gym or if he comes over again.

my had mixed feelings last night i felt like oh is this success i have been visualizing him a lot lately, but i still have the doubts in my mind that he just wants to stay in contact for the money. i need to get that negative out of my head. the worse times are when I'm sleeping and when i'm waking up is when i feel most lonely. I keep listening to affirmations and trying to think positive and then the negative thoughts pop into my head. 

should i start talking to other guys? I don't really want to since i can't stop thinking about my love, but if i keep obsessing and thinking of my love too much then it's going to block me from manifesting us getting back together. i have to think positive thoughts. 

any suggestions on my updated situation? 

today my ex says that we are just friends, he kept emphasizing the word "Friends." should i be his friend and talk to him as friends even if i want to get him back?? Or will it kill my chances. He's talking to me like a friend and continues to use the word friend. ahh

swtbabygrl wrote:

today my ex says that we are just friends, he kept emphasizing the word "Friends." should i be his friend and talk to him as friends even if i want to get him back?? Or will it kill my chances. He's talking to me like a friend and continues to use the word friend. ahh

From a LoA perspective it doesn't matter. But in my experience it is much easier to believe in your new reality when you don't see the old one so much. So I think I would break the contact for a while.

Last edited by Sanshi (6/03/2016 3:50 am)