holistichealing wrote:

RollingRock33 wrote:

Thanks guys

I asked her if she wanted to skype tonight, ,she replied, "maybe....maybe not I honestly don't know", and I said, "well it's entirely up to you! " And she replied, "Nah I don't think I should actually so no".

"Should"? I don't understand why she said that? Does she not want me thinking she has feelings for me? She's been flirty... I don't know how she feels. It kind of hurts with her saying that...

Don't question it, I have been doing that. Just leave it be and send her some love and visualize being happy with her. Have faith that she will come completely around, no matter how difficult.

I hope you're right! I'm just worrying lol. It's always there even when I'm positive so I hope I can get her back! She's been distant over facebook chat too... :O  But I love her and I have to get her back!

holistichealing wrote:

RollingRock33 wrote:

holistichealing wrote:

Don't question it, I have been doing that. Just leave it be and send her some love and visualize being happy with her. Have faith that she will come completely around, no matter how difficult.

I hope you're right! I'm just worrying lol. It's always there even when I'm positive so I hope I can get her back! She's been distant over facebook chat too... :O  But I love her and I have to get her back!

You need to let go of the desperation for her. She can sense it and it is turning her off, that is why she is being distant.

I think I have let go of the despiration though :O - It's like I 'Know' we're meant to be together...
But like. it's like when I'm not around her she's distant. I wonder if that's just from my past thoughts? I just want her back 

 

Oh, also, when I was asking her to hang out before we did hang out, this is what I said on the phone to her to ask her to hang out:

"Hey, so I need to get some stuff from the store. Shampoo, body wash, etc..", at which point she said, "I do too..." and I asked, after she said that, "would you like to tag along?" - which was what I was going to ask anyway. I wanted to spend time with her. She replied, "I can't today", and I asked, "How about tomorrow?", she said "sure". and offered to pick me up because I don't have a car right now.

Well, when we hung out, I got the stuff I needed. After I picked out my stuff, I asked, "Didn't you say you need some stuff?" She replied, "no". 

So my thoughts were, why did she say yes if she really didn't? I'm sure she knew where I was going with the whole "so i need to get shampoo" thing... Was she just trying to make an excuse to hang out with me? Because she's been trying not to hang out with me lately... She says she doesn't want to hang out with me every single day, like she used to. She wants to FIND things to keep her busy. Maybe that's because she still sees it as somewhat of a "relationship" and wants to avoid seeing it like that? We used to hang out almost every day. So maybe she's trying not to get too involved with me. - It would explain why she replied to the skype offer with "Nah, I really shouldn't don't think I should, actually so no".

(Oh. And we had lunch. Not dinner, after that. My bad.)

I just don't understand her feelings for me at this time...Someone told me on another forum by play slapping me, etc (the stuff I said in the first paragraph - I sent it verbatim on another forum) the following:

"Are you kidding me?  Of course she's interested....on a subconscious level.  She may not even even know what she's doing...as long as you keep your expectations out of it and don't try to force anything....She's going to like you more and more....Let everything be her idea.  Spending time with someone laughing, joking and having fun...are emotionally bonding things.  Those are very telling signs...."


... I just want to know how she feels about me because her being distant is really frustrating me and getting to me :/
 

 

Last edited by RollingRock33 (5/06/2016 4:45 am)

I told her how I just got a job at walmart... I said "you should visit me sometimes!"

And she rpelied, "I don't like walmart" - which is BS because she's been there with me a lot... :/ 

IDK how she feels