So I've noticed that there are a mixture of very positive and very doubtful/sad/insecure people on this forum. I have definitely been on both ends of the spectrum, right now I'm more towards positive but I did realise something today that might make some people here who are feeling low about their situation suddenly feel a lot better. 

Basically, being dumped by someone you really love and want to be with forever is up there with the most painful experiences in life along with death, because it is a type of death. It's the loss of something you really wanted, that you saw as an integral part of your future on this planet in your short time existing here. It's something that you got and thought 'yes , this is exactly what I want! I want this forever now! I can see this growing and blossoming into something truly amazing!' and the other person just stops that all in its tracks. The other person decides that this is actually not what they want anymore and chooses to go and seek something else. It's so painful. But the reason why you should feel better about your situation right now is because this is literally one of the most painful experiences you can ever ever experience and you are still actually breathing and your heart is still beating, so basically, you are surviving. You may not feel happy, positive about life, but you are eating, sleeping, breathing and you are giving yourself a chance to feel happy and positive again by doing that, you are giving yourself a chance at happiness. The other person has most likely not gone through what you are going through, they were the ones who decided, for some reason, they want something else while you are the person who wanted what you had. They have not gone through this heart ache like you so therefore, you are now officially stronger than them. 

Another reason to feel better about this situation: you are on here because you are hopeful, the person did NOT kill your hope. Sure you might be feeling desperate, needy, like you absolutely need them back right now but you are still alive right now without them, maybe you have even laughed since they left at one stage, maybe smiled, maybe enjoyed something lately and all while being without that person. You are hoping for their return, that's fine, but in essence what you are really hoping for is the return of love. I've only been in love once , with the person who I came on here to attract back, I literally have never felt in love with anyone else on this planet except with this person, who I was with for 4 years. They are the only ones too who have shown me the type of love that I love. But....I realised today that maybe, just maybe, there might be others out there who can show me that exact same love too....maybe they can show me that love and NOT leave...imagine that. I went through such a tough time, I was heart broken, my first and only love went off with someone else, cut contact, was a little horrible to me at times since. I'm not even completely honestly sure if I am fully in love with them still after that, but I do love them as a person, I would like that chance of a relationship again....but I also feel like I have literally become a more enlightened and stronger person than that guy because he never went through what I went through and I'm not 100% sure that if he went through what I went through, he would be hopeful in love. I feel he would get so cold and angry, maybe depressed, maybe hate women, become a womanizer. I haven't gotten cold, in fact I've gotten warmer, and so has everyone on this forum. Everyone here wants to vibrate love, everyone here also has every reason why they wouldn't want to vibrate love, because it's scary to so many people to want to be vulnerable after getting hurt.

So that little rant is to make people here feel good about themselves and to get into a positive vibration of confidence, self compassion and warmth. We are the lucky ones, we are the ones who have been put through the worst and not been left jaded. We have the ability and the experience to love, both the person we're on here to attract and everyone else. We are the ones who look at life through rose tinted glasses and refuse to see it any other way no matter what gets thrown at us. That makes us attractive. If you can remember this when you do start to feel anxious, insecure about yourself and your self worth, depressed about love and not being able to have it right now how you want it, then you will get closer to your manifestation. I know in my case, I have now completely let go of my situation to the point nearly where I am wondering whether I do even want my original person anymore, but I'm definitely confident I deserve him anyway. I hope this helped