Ha ha..So did I...😂 how come almost all our love stories are similar??!

ShootingStar wrote:

Had a thought pop up today while I was speaking to a friend about his past relationships.. I don't know if I ever apologised to my person for the way I acted that led to our break up...I was super emotional and clingy and blamed it on him making me feel insecure when my friend told me today how it was all in my head. To quote Justin beiber ..is it too late now to say sorry? I put him through hell and I only realised that today...it was a year ago but is it a good idea to contact him with an apology, I bet he Stil thinks I'm like that and I'm not, I even went to therapy. I feel so bad for putting him through so much, I made him feel miserable because I felt insecure :s I'm wondering if this is and inspired idea?

 
IMHO it's always a good idea to apologies for past hurts when possible.  It's never too late, it may not have the effect that it would have had closer to the event but it is always appreciated. I had a previous ex contact me almost a year after our break up and apologise for past hurts. I wrote about this in a previous post, that whilst I didn't want him back there were things I wanted to hear and I held out for a long time to hear those things.  When he apologised it had a huge effect on me. 

As long as your apology is sincere it can never be a bad thing to do. By sincere you must be honest that your extension of any apology is it to make amends for the way you treated him, not to instigate a reconciliation. If your honest motivation to apologises is a hope of reconciliation then actually you are  trying to manipulate the situation not resolve it.

It will release a burden on your conscience too. Don't have any expectation of how he will respond back to you, but know that deep down it will be appreciated.

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I say go for it. Be very clear in your sincerity and let him know that you are sincerely apologising for past hurts and u feel it's important for him to know your thoughts.

As I said as long as you are coming from a place of sincerity I cant see anything wrong with it.

At the same time forgive yourself, what's done is done and hopefully you've learnt all you needed to from it.

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