I can totally relate! But we are all in this together

I have moments like that but I just keep repeating my affirmations and tell myself this is my reality i call the shots and I decide what it looks like.

About the contact thing...I was looking back and reflecting on how loa has been working for me. I thought it failed me but actually it worked every time...before this I just wanted to hear from him, and I did, and we always spent amazing time together but after that it went back to how things were before. Once I was having a mental convo with him just for fun and days later he invited me over and we had the exact same convo, thing is...I really should have visualized the end goal not just a conversation.

Anyway, just wanted to give some support, don't give up and I'm waiting for your success story

That's great manifesting es4life ! Thanks for sharing that it helped with my vibe today :3

Maya, I learnt something useful today according to Abraham, letting go is not exactly the same as giving up. You can 'give up' but do you really give up? Like you could move on but if your person came back to you, you would still say yes, because you can't give up on a desire. You could 'give up' on trying to be a famous movie star, but if Steven Spielberg rang you asking you to star in his movie, you would still want to. You can't stop wanting what you want basically, it's impossible if it's something you truly want So yes, move on in all the ways that feel good to you but be aware that you can't just stop your desire but you can give it a rest for a while and focus on other things. 

I had some experiences with giving up and here's what I figured out.

Before this guy, I never really fell in love this hard so when things went wrong I was never too bothered and just went on with my life, what happened was that every single one of them came back some even decided that it was a good idea to stalk me. One thing, even when I gave up, deep down I just knew they'd be back.

With this one, when things went a bit wrong I defaulted to my natural response-giving up and moving on. It worked at first when I wasn't too into him, same thing happened, he came back and became more loving over time. The problem is this, I knew he'd be back, I should really make myself 'know' that he'd be back and ask me for a relationship. So, that's what I'm working on now, to just know that the relationship with him is already mine.

Also, I read Abe hicks a while ago, part of their theories just didn't make much sense to me, Neville Goddard and Joseph Murphy are what worked the best for me, looking back, I've manifested big time when i had doubts, fears, all kinds of negative feelings. I think to manifest, you don't really need to be happy, you just need to be certain, that is, belief. I personally think forcing yourself to be positive all the time does more harm than good. But that's just me.

I think for me affirmations helped me a great deal when I'm bored and my thoughts start to wander. In terms of false hope, I have a pretty serious case of abandonment issues and I used to protect myself from harm by not expecting anything from anyone, just to stay detached. And I never got hurt like that, but I've learned that I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all. I understand we don't want to keep the false hope cause what if we turn out to be wrong right, but personally, I choose to be happy rather than right any day. I choose to expect good things to happen to me, I don't believe in God or the universe or any external higher being really, I do believe the so called universe is within each and every one of us. Since the day I made the decision to think positive and expect good things to happen, life hasn't failed me by far.

Loa aside, i think years of staying detached and not expecting anything good did more harm than good to me, my life changed for the better the second I decided to live it to the fullest and feel every feeling I have and appreciate it. So, go out there and live your life, tell yourself that the person you want is already yours because you deserve to have good things to happen to you, no questions asked.

es4life I like your vibe, I'm on a similar wave to you I feel, I have deep abandonment issues and in a place where I sort of expect to be abandoned even by people I only met who show interest I immediately just feel like they're just going to leave so why bother get into it too much, but I know that's going to kill my enjoyment of life so I'm trying to get back to the innocence I had before about relationships !

camber- I feel that you have genuinely moved on, there's a recurring line in so many songs that goes like 'it hurts when it's healed too' which means that you can actually be moved on from someone but still miss them or the relationship and also the shock of having that contact cut from you can bring up feelings of confusion and sadness too. I hate cut and dry break ups, I much prefer break ups where I feel I can contact my ex and they will reply and it gets to the stage where I can just move on gradually. A cut and dry break up would be too hard for me, it would haunt me and make it so hard to move on for me. My person who I'm attracting right now tried to sort of go cut and dry because this girl wanted him too, he told me to not contact him or something...anyway he ended up having light communications with me through the year because I just decided that he was just NOT going to do that. I pestered a little, but it was when I stopped the pestering and then spoke from my heart that he went against his 'girlfriends' wishes and contacted me back. That's how I know we're getting back together. If you do think that your person is one of those stone-cold exs who almost pride themselves on the fact they 'never go back', well then you will be stuck in that resistance. But, just to say, no human can really follow rigid laws where emotions and love are concerned, people change behaviours all the time when they feel they missed out or made a mistake or are losing something special. However, from a LOA point of view, the fact that you feel happier than ever without him does indicate that your emotions and inner being is telling you that you should be without him right now. Doesn't mean you can't miss him or maybe desire contact, but go with the flow, don't go down a path that your inner self doesn't want to go, if you're happy, keep doing what your doing, you'll probably see him back soon that way too actually, that's how it goes.

Last edited by ShootingStar (4/27/2016 5:29 pm)