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I messed up time and time again, we've been on-and-off for one year.Β
She's made it clear she only thinks of me as a friend and has no feelings for me anymore...Β
I don't know what to do!Β
Please help me. I love her, and I can't imagine a life without her ((
Things seem really bad right now. She's been so distant, and what we once had... it's gone from her end.
Help me I want her back. I love her. And I'm lost. I don't know what to do!
Last edited by RollingRock33 (4/24/2016 10:11 am)
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Anyone? I'm kind of lost here.
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I'm sorry you see you in a situation like this. I know that it can be hard to look at things from a LoA perspective when your vibration is low and everything seems to go in the complete wrong direction, but try to remember that you are the creator of your own reality. She is an aspect of your reality, so you created the situation. That's good, because it means you can change it.
I would recommend to use the next days to forget as good as possible what happened. Remember that your old thoughts created the situation. So don't concentrate on it. When you catch yourself thinking about it, STOP! You don't want to recreate the situation, right? Raise your vibration, do things you love and get back on track. As long as you feel bad it is impossible to attract her back. And trust me, you CAN imagine a life without her (but don't do it if you want her back). Your focus is way to much on her. As long as you need her, you will get back more needing her. So make yourself the most important person.
When you are back on track you can start to use LoA. Maybe it would help to (re)read some books on the topic.
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Sanshi wrote:
I'm sorry you see you in a situation like this. I know that it can be hard to look at things from a LoA perspective when your vibration is low and everything seems to go in the complete wrong direction, but try to remember that you are the creator of your own reality. She is an aspect of your reality, so you created the situation. That's good, because it means you can change it.
I would recommend to use the next days to forget as good as possible what happened. Remember that your old thoughts created the situation. So don't concentrate on it. When you catch yourself thinking about it, STOP! You don't want to recreate the situation, right? Raise your vibration, do things you love and get back on track. As long as you feel bad it is impossible to attract her back. And trust me, you CAN imagine a life without her (but don't do it if you want her back). Your focus is way to much on her. As long as you need her, you will get back more needing her. So make yourself the most important person.
When you are back on track you can start to use LoA. Maybe it would help to (re)read some books on the topic.
Thank you so much...
Do you have any visualization tips or any tips to manifest her back?
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Oasiscalm wrote:
Take a step back from the situation. At the moment you are very desperate and miserable.
Yes you can have her back. But you need to start with getting yourself back.
Heal yourself from the situation. Do some meditation on calming you anxiety and need for her. Your efforts to attract her back will only be effective if they are built on a strong foundation.
Start reading some basic LOA text to refresh on rising your vibration and getting into a more stable happy place, then you can start adding intentions and visualisations for attracting her back. But if you attempt it from where you are now it is going to be extremely difficult and potentially cause you more distress if you don't see the results you want.
Take care of yourself.
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So how can I start attracting her back? What do I do? Like, how can I visualize? I'm not even convinced the LoA works, which scares me...
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Rolling Rock..i know this phase...i have gone through it... always focus on the positive thing... see ,for her if it would have been easy to be without you then she would not have been with you for one year on and off... relax... she has feelings for you take it from me..it's just that she can't recognize it may be due to some bad incidents which you created...
So create back... make her love you again with your thought!
Love you!
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LoveIsGod wrote:
Rolling Rock..i know this phase...i have gone through it... always focus on the positive thing... see ,for her if it would have been easy to be without you then she would not have been with you for one year on and off... relax... she has feelings for you take it from me..it's just that she can't recognize it may be due to some bad incidents which you created...
So create back... make her love you again with your thought!
Love you!
That's what I thought! She kissed me a few weeks back, and while she was kissing me, she told me not to read into it. I said "you have feelings for me, I know you do. Look you're kissing me", to which she replied, "this was a bad idea. It means nothing.". And she's seeming VERY sure that she has no feelings for me though... She lost the feelings for me throughout the year apparently, and has made it quite clear that she sees me as "just a friend".
I told her I can't "just be friends", and that I "need more from us".. She said she can't give me more, and pretty much decided "okay, he doesn't want to be a friend. So we're nothing then" and walked away...
I don't think she has feelings for me
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anyone?
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RollingRock33...suppose you are angry on your mom...and declared that you won't have your lunch... you are so angry on your mom.... if she goes on nagging you ..what will you do?? You will feel happy somewhere inside to know you are so important to your mom..and she gives so much priority to you...knowing that you will deny your food more to see your importance more in your mom's eyes!
On the other hand..if she wouldn't have nagged and left you at your state...what you would have done? You would have taken your food when you couldn't have controlled your hunger..right?
So let her feel hungry.. don't nag ,and in the meantime practice LOA to increase her hunger!!π