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How to work this out
Hello everyone! I really need your help. I don't know if you remember my story, I am trying to attract someone who is with someone else. I am not desperate though. I am relaxed and happy and I do everyday nice things about myself. My self esteem is much higher than before. I know how important is to enjoy your own life istead of sitting and waiting. The thing now is that it is not very easy for me to really really enjoy my life because of the following reasons:
1. I am very very lonely in my life. I lost my friens. I have 1-2 friends but I see them rarely. I want people and good friends in my life. Many friends have hurt me and didn't treat me well. I hane no people to go out, I want to go out and have a good time but there is nobody. I want to share many things with friends but I am lonely.
2. These last years I have a problem that ddn't use to have. When I go out (this is something that happens very rarely now) I feel like I am bored and that I have nothing to say. I don't have a good time and I am bored! I don't know what to say, what to talk about with ither people.
3. Probably this is the worst one. There is something with me and I really don't know how to handle this. It was not my choice but it happened, because of my negative thinking. And I am afraid that even if I make new friends, they will ask me about this and I don't know how to say and explain it. Plus, I don't know how to say it to a potential partner. I feel really really bad about this. I am 28 years old. I have met a lot of (weird) guys. But I have never been in a relationship and I have never had sex.
Please, I need your help.
- khushi
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Re: How to work this out
I would also like someone to respond to this post and get some advice for myself as well.
- Oasiscalm
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Re: How to work this out
@Milk&Honey.
At this moment take the time to work on yourself and get your alignment in high vibration. It's unfortunate that you have some intense situations facing you at the moment. But the fact that you have gone through them is testament to your strength and shows you have the power to wilfully change your life around.
Start by getting a clear picture about what you want in your new life. Take a blank sheet of paper and just write out what the different areas of your life should look like.
Set your intention that your life from here on will be just that. There are many processes you can use to realise your vibration. Visualisation is particularly effective, but ensure you fully embrace the feeling of it.
You have to become the person you want to be. Start acting that way, at first it may feel false but you just keep at it everyday.
Praise yourself daily. Get some affirmations that reinforce your self love and really learn how to love yourself. It's so important.
I don't know what you circumstances are but don't be scared to seek professional counselling in something like CBT or hypnosis to release old pasts and start to heal. Also be active look for local social groups etc and start to take small steps to relieve your social anxiety and become social again.
You can have the life you want, it will take time but faith and strength with see you through.
Big hug to you.
- Milk&Honey
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Re: How to work this out
Thanks for your reply.
Today was a good day, definately better than the last days. Last night I decided to think of it in a different way. I have to drop many things and beliefs which don't belong to me. So, today I felt a big relief. I know I have to work many things with myself but it is ok. Maybe it was one of a few days that I didn't feel impatience. I was in a mood that everything will work out and I trusted the process. I was in here and now without impatience. I thought that all that matters is my way of thinking. I saw some signs today! I used affirmations about me, my life and my self0confidence and I think it works.
I don't know exactly how to visualize. Sometimes I have done it and had results in a few minutes or hours. It depends on the subject. I hope that Veronica's new book will help me. There are many times that I can't create the feeling. And I stop. Today I managed to get the feeling. It came naturally without any force. So, I visualized... kind of .. I had some images with feelings at least. And something happened that gave me me inspiration and help. I saw many signs.
Veronica Isles LOA coach veronicaislescoaching.com