I've recently been watching a series of videos by a youtuber called Chazz Ellis, his advice is really insightful when it comes to dating and relationships as he said he's made most of his life out of being a 'player' so he got to know about people's behaviour and how people as a whole will react to nearly every situation in dating. One thing he says clearly is that he has found out that people move in cycles. People move from being in relationships, to wanting to be single again, to wanting to date other people, to wanting to reconnect with their exs, to wanting to be back in relationships...he has advice on how to get an ex back too and it's pretty much what loa is about, moving on, building an exciting life for yourself, getting away from your ex so that they start wanting to reconnect with you. The key part is that they will inevitably want to reconnect with you at SOME stage but you just have to be patient because they need to go through their cycle. If you look at your own life, you will see times where you have randomly thought about talking to someone from your past you were close to once but haven't heard from or told them you wanted to move on. Pure curiosity makes us want to do that. Especially if the connection was deep and they weren't just a passing fling in your life who you never really shared a lot with. So if you think right now your situation is hopeless because they blocked you or they're dating someone else or they've moved country or something big, don't worry, there will actually come a time where they will either reach out to you, or you will have reached out to them and they will finally be in a place where they respond and they want to actually know how you're doing. Keeping up light communication with your ex I think is  good, like a text every month or two just sending them a little information about the good things that are happening with you, telling them something that reminded you of them and then presuming that they must have a million great things happening to them. Persistence is ok with consistence, so keep positive, even if they don't reply or maybe reply negatively, don't get upset and let your vibration go down because they're really just testing you, to see if they have the power to set you off, to see if you are still emotionally attached to them and will still fall to pieces. Right now, they're in a different part of their cycle, they're thinking about something or someone else, they're invested in something else right now that they believe will bring them happiness, but as long as you are offering them positivity and happiness and no drama or negativity, it will work out ! At the beginning when they see your name pop up on their phone they will think 'ugh this is going to be drama or annoyance or something bad' but then they'll read it and nothing bad or pressuring will be in it. They might not reply, but they won't feel that feeling of dread so much for the next time and then eventually they will realise that for the last how many months or the last year, you, the person who they expected negativity from, have been there in the background offering good vibes and have also become this amazingly strong and healthy person with so much joy going on in their lives. You'll become desirable. The no contact rule should definitely be in place for as long as it takes you to lighten your vibe and then when your vibe is light and good, contacting isn't a problem because no matter what you say, it will be right and no matter what your ex does or says, you won't be disturbed or overly enthusiastic either, just really zen, so that the day your ex and you meet up again, it will just feel so natural and when they kiss you you won't be shocked or dancing around for joy, you'll just feel pleasant because it was bound to happen and was the next logical step. Patience is key, and knowing that life is long and that it might take a while for your person to go through their cycle to come back to you but they will. Although, this may not happen if they are married to someone else because marriage is presumably quite final but in all other cases, they will contact you or respond to you eventually, it's human nature!