Veronica's Law of Attraction Forum » lack of dreams

LaughBella14 · 4/12/2016 6:44 am

I have a few questions & they might be silly, but I was hoping to get a few opinions on them. I've noticed a few of you talking about your dreams about your guys/girls from time to time, and how some people think it's indicative of where they are in the attraction process. I've been wondering if It has any significance that I pretty much rarely ever dream about my guy. Since we've last spoken 3 months ago, I've had maybe 3 very vague and quick dreams about him, and they were nothing special and nothing really to even remember about afterwards. After my break up a few years ago with another ex, I dreamed about that one almost nightly, and he managed to still be around at least checking in with me weekly, he didn't disappear like my current love did, so I would actually think that I would dream more about my current love more than that one since my current love disappeared and our relationship just poofed out of no where, and I've heard that dreams usually help resolve relationships for yourself when they have no conclusion and you're confused on where that person went lol. So why don't I have dreams about him, and is this any indicator in the attraction process? Some of you feel that when you dream of them they dream or are thinking of you too.

My second question is, why do I feel sooo blocked on anything having to do with him? If I ever think of reaching out, I immediately feel not to, like there's a block in place mentally; if I ever wanna speak about him or share any thing online like fb, I feel blocked again, like I know not to. Like I'm forced to stay silent on the subject of him , and not to speak to him, like that's the way I'm supposed to go about things. I don't know why I feel this way, because I'd LOVE to talk to him, but it almost feels like this block isn't coming from me..but that he made a mental note for me not to reach out to him or talk about him or something, or like that was his request. I can't figure out if that's possible, or if my subconscious blocks me because I felt like there was nothing I can do, and that no contact was best for me until he makes the first move and contacts me. Any opinions on if he made this block so that I wouldn't reach out to him bc of his new girl, or if you guys think I'm doing it myself??

Thanks for anyone who can help, even if you guys think they're silly questions

ShootingStar · 4/12/2016 8:00 am

The first one about dreams is really interesting to me....I can lucid dream and I also can make myself dream of a subject. So a couple of times I've made myself have a dream about my ex and I'd say 'I want to dream about him and see what he is thinking' so I would have these dreams...most of them include my ex looking at me warmly but also guiltily and sadly like 'I'm so sad we didn't work out' and then we would kiss and then I'd ask him 'Are you coming back to me?' and he would look at me like 'nothing will change, we didn't work out...but I would love to....' and then the other girl would sort of appear and pull him away and he would go with her but not happily, more like 'this is how it has to be' . I really felt that is what he is thinking, I feel like I dipped into his sub concious as we do have a very strong connection. I don't think I fantasized that, because if it was my fantasy, he would be saying he's coming back to me and he doesn't want her and she would be kicked out, but that's not in my dreams.

As for the second thing; I totally understand you. Personally, I'm scared of making things worse than they are. I'm scared that anything I do or say would be taken the wrong way by him now that this other girl is around, a simple 'hi' could be interpreted as a clingy or trying to split them up or something bad ! But that is also your own fear. No contact is better , unless you run into him on purpose, then there's no reason of having a brief and happy interaction to show him what he's missing and how well you're doing

Love is Real · 4/12/2016 10:08 am

For your dreams, here is an article that might help. You might actually be having dreams but not remembering them. and if you can have lucid dreams it would not only be fun but also very helpful to your process:

http://garybeckwith.net/5-easy-steps-to-lucid-dreaming/

Regarding your block, I don't know but I have a similar issue. I sometimes wonder if it coming from her, not me. Like she is blocking the love and energy and visualizations I'm sending to her. If that's what it is, I've heard this referred to as resistance, and there are some things you can do about it. One is to just kick back for a while and let a little time go by, maybe just a few days and then start up again. Another is to do your visualizations more, and stronger. Another is to just send unconditional love for a while, not any specific "creation." If it is not resistance from the other, and it's coming from you, I would say to come up with affirmations and visualizations to overcome your block. Like tell yourself 100 times a day, "I have a direct connection to X. All the love and energy I send his/her way flows freely." etc. hope that helps.

LaughBella14 · 4/12/2016 7:09 pm

ShootingStar wrote:
The first one about dreams is really interesting to me....I can lucid dream and I also can make myself dream of a subject. So a couple of times I've made myself have a dream about my ex and I'd say 'I want to dream about him and see what he is thinking' so I would have these dreams...most of them include my ex looking at me warmly but also guiltily and sadly like 'I'm so sad we didn't work out' and then we would kiss and then I'd ask him 'Are you coming back to me?' and he would look at me like 'nothing will change, we didn't work out...but I would love to....' and then the other girl would sort of appear and pull him away and he would go with her but not happily, more like 'this is how it has to be' . I really felt that is what he is thinking, I feel like I dipped into his sub concious as we do have a very strong connection. I don't think I fantasized that, because if it was my fantasy, he would be saying he's coming back to me and he doesn't want her and she would be kicked out, but that's not in my dreams.

As for the second thing; I totally understand you. Personally, I'm scared of making things worse than they are. I'm scared that anything I do or say would be taken the wrong way by him now that this other girl is around, a simple 'hi' could be interpreted as a clingy or trying to split them up or something bad ! But that is also your own fear. No contact is better , unless you run into him on purpose, then there's no reason of having a brief and happy interaction to show him what he's missing and how well you're doing

Hey ShootingStar, thanks for replying! I can't do any of that lol, so I'm curious to know how you went about the dream thing..did u just say to yourself or out loud before bed I wanna have a dream about how he's feeling about me?? The dream thing is really interesting, but like I said, I haven't really had any...the 3 that I had were so short & I think had to do with him & other girls lol. I'm not sure, but no dreams of him wanting me or anything lol. That's awesome u can do that ! As far as the second part, if I contacted him, I'm sure he'd just ignore me, & I may even be blocked, I don't know. It's been 3 months since we've spoken & he left me for another girl & proposed to her a month in. I'm working on changing that story but I just have so many things regarding loa that I don't seem to get enough to put my full faith into it. I just dont understand if I'm the one who manifested their engagement 100% or if he co created it. I don't get it, but I do wish I could figure out how to reverse it! I still miss him most days and wish he'd come back to me telling me he made a mistake by going to her & really never wanted her and always wanted me, ya know..all the fantasies we all have lol! I do see him in his car from time to time as his mom lives in my complex but I don't know if he even notices me.

LaughBella14 · 4/12/2016 7:19 pm

Love is Real wrote:
For your dreams, here is an article that might help. You might actually be having dreams but not remembering them. and if you can have lucid dreams it would not only be fun but also very helpful to your process:

http://garybeckwith.net/5-easy-steps-to-lucid-dreaming/

Regarding your block, I don't know but I have a similar issue. I sometimes wonder if it coming from her, not me. Like she is blocking the love and energy and visualizations I'm sending to her. If that's what it is, I've heard this referred to as resistance, and there are some things you can do about it. One is to just kick back for a while and let a little time go by, maybe just a few days and then start up again. Another is to do your visualizations more, and stronger. Another is to just send unconditional love for a while, not any specific "creation." If it is not resistance from the other, and it's coming from you, I would say to come up with affirmations and visualizations to overcome your block. Like tell yourself 100 times a day, "I have a direct connection to X. All the love and energy I send his/her way flows freely." etc. hope that helps.

That is exactly how I feel!!!! If I try to visualize him or try using Lanies method, I just feel like I can't keep the picture of him & then I tend to give up immediately. I don't feel like I can connect to him & I don't "feel" him or his energy like most others here do. I literally feel blocked in every way, like he made it so that I couldn't reach him. I don't know how to change that if he did it or is doing it & it frustrates me bc I just want to talk to him and I've been trying to mentally talk to him getting him to text me or call me or come outside since he comes to his moms house sometimes, and I just don't feel like it works. I've been trying ever since he got with her, so I do give up plenty & go back to it later since it's been a few months, but I still feel the same. But I have began just saying "I love you" & his name; sometimes out loud and sometimes in my head. I don't know if that can even really do anything, but it's the only thing I don't feel resistance to. I really enjoy that affirmation though so I will try that, thank you so much!!! I'll check out that link too...you've been a huge help..Feel free to pm me if you ever wanna talk!!!! :-)

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Love is Real · 4/13/2016 3:14 am

I have foundi have trouble seeing her. But I can touch her and feel it in my mind. Have you tried that?

ShootingStar · 4/13/2016 8:04 am

LaughBella14 , I just read what you said about your situation and I thought about a situation I had that was similar last year. My person and I broke up and within 2 weeks he was officially with this other girl in our town who's known for being one of the town's biggest catches, everyone loves her. So he shut me out completely, told me to stop texting him, stop going to his gigs because the new girl was feeling upset about the fact that I was around sometimes. He was what you would call...swept off his feet....he definitely felt like he was punching above his weight, he didn't want to lose this girl. I knew, however, that he was in love with the idea of her but really in love with me. I was so certain this was the case that I got inspired action to write him a letter where I was vulnerable but not too emotional, sweet and feminine and I wanted to show him how much I appreciated him and valued him. He read the letter, I got no reply, but two weeks later we ran into each other and the run in began with him being cold and me being confused and ended with us sleeping together and getting back together haha. In that case, because I knew I had nothing to lose by telling him (in a non desperate way) how I felt and showing him how I really loved the real him in ways I didn't show him before (I'm closed off) that it was a good inspired action. I would say that perhaps in your situation , you should meditate on this problem and then you might receive an idea for inspired action too I personally don't believe loa is just about being passive, I do believe in there being a good mix of action. Abraham apparently got Jerry when she wrote him a letter before he was due to get married that he shouldn't get married to that person but should get married to her (or something like this I read somewhere!)

LaughBella14 · 4/13/2016 10:25 am

Love is Real wrote:
I have foundi have trouble seeing her. But I can touch her and feel it in my mind. Have you tried that?

Yes, that doesn't work either. So I just set the intention that it's him that I'm talking to, and talk, But I don't know if that works. I'm not sure if it's a problem just unique to him though; I tried it on a friend & couldn't visualize her either. Its not really not seeing the face that bothers me though, it's the not feeling connected.

I think I have figured out two major blocks for me. One, is that I think I am really scared of putting my full faith into loa- visualizing, affirming, scripting, lanies, whatever methods available putting full trust & faith & belief into this & it either isn't real, doesn't work with other people, or won't work for me & him because he's with someone else. I DO believe it's real in general, because I have had plenty of instances of obtaining objects or little things through it, but I am not sold on if it truly works with other people, as I haven't seen that personally. I'm not sure if it's loa at work or if it's more like telepathy and thought transference that brings other people to you. I'm not sure about the free will thing, or how much we create versus what others create. I still struggle with whether *I* fully created him leaving me for another girl and moving in with her and proposing to her within a month & half or if HE did all or the majority of that. I think it might be a co creation process, so if I want him but he wants her (which I still don't understand, I know he loved me SO MUCH & ALWAYS said I was "it" for him), who gets what they want? Him, me, or her? What if she wants him just as much as I do? Although i swear I created her. I WISH SHE'D FIND SOMEONE ELSE!!!!

The second thing I feel that might be blocking me is what if I do go & put full faith into the loa, and I do actually get him back; what about the fact that they're engaged...aren't I like taking her fiance away from her & stopping their wedding plans & leaving her in the middle of that? Is that mean? I wouldn't want my fiance stolen from me..but then again he was stolen from me!! I suppose I shouldn't even concern myself with that..bc loa would find a way for them to not even want to marry each other in the first place & cancel their engagement...right? Also of course I wish for her to find someone else bc I don't think she really knew about me..so I want her to be happy...just with someone else!!!! Lol. And I want to make him happy with me and us happy together like we always have been. But what if he does come back & I can't make him as happy as she did. What if he feels like stuff is missing bc he finally got to experience freedom by moving out of his moms & into her apartment, and she also has a daughter already and what if he misses her? What if he misses having that stuff by being back with me, bc he'd have to move back into his moms & we wouldn't have our own place right away & I don't have any kids? I know, I guess I'm being stupid lol... I should instead be saying he'll be RELIEVED to have moved back home, and be excited to get a place with me, he'll be so happy to be back together with me, & us have our own family together one day when we've worked everything out and are ready & stable for it. I just have to stop being so insecure, right?? He did love me very much once...

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LaughBella14 · 4/13/2016 11:04 am

ShootingStar wrote:
LaughBella14 , I just read what you said about your situation and I thought about a situation I had that was similar last year. My person and I broke up and within 2 weeks he was officially with this other girl in our town who's known for being one of the town's biggest catches, everyone loves her. So he shut me out completely, told me to stop texting him, stop going to his gigs because the new girl was feeling upset about the fact that I was around sometimes. He was what you would call...swept off his feet....he definitely felt like he was punching above his weight, he didn't want to lose this girl. I knew, however, that he was in love with the idea of her but really in love with me. I was so certain this was the case that I got inspired action to write him a letter where I was vulnerable but not too emotional, sweet and feminine and I wanted to show him how much I appreciated him and valued him. He read the letter, I got no reply, but two weeks later we ran into each other and the run in began with him being cold and me being confused and ended with us sleeping together and getting back together haha. In that case, because I knew I had nothing to lose by telling him (in a non desperate way) how I felt and showing him how I really loved the real him in ways I didn't show him before (I'm closed off) that it was a good inspired action. I would say that perhaps in your situation , you should meditate on this problem and then you might receive an idea for inspired action too I personally don't believe loa is just about being passive, I do believe in there being a good mix of action. Abraham apparently got Jerry when she wrote him a letter before he was due to get married that he shouldn't get married to that person but should get married to her (or something like this I read somewhere!)

This would be lovely shootingstar, but I just don't feel that I can contact him. I found out about her, he blocked me, ran off with her, & got engaged. To me I did all that I could at the time; I tried to contact him several times after he got with her, but he ignored every single one. Its been over 2 months since I've tried & I'd love to tell him how I feel...but given the girl, I just don't feel I can. He's got to come to me doesn't he..he's the one who left & blocked me & got engaged?

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LaughBella14 · 4/13/2016 11:17 am

And I know I'm supposed to be changing the story anyway, & to stop focusing on any of it to begin with.. I just think its the block on believing it can work with others & if its even moral that stops me from trying to change it! Geez can't they just decide to break up on their own that would help hehe

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