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Sad and don't know what to do now
I met this guy some weeks ago. It was like a roller coaster ride. When we saw each other everything was fine. Between our meetings he doubted and once nearly broke contact. When we were together it felt like being in a relationship. We held hands, kissed, slept in one bed, cuddled. I felt that he has feelings for me and 2 weeks ago, he admitted it. The week after we had some issues and he withdrew. I didn't hear anything from him since a week. Normally we texted every day for hours. After 4 days of no contact, I wrote him a casual letter - no reaction. I wrote him a text message - no reaction. Yesterday I wrote him a message that I don't want a relationship with him and that I just want to enjoy the time with him, because I think he has fear of commitment. he read my message, but he didn't reply. I was so sure he would reply. I don't know what to do now. I think it would be wrong to send more texts. I don't want this to end. I don't see a reason why this has to end. I don't understand why he didn't reply. I feel really down atm...
Tomorrow is his birthday. I don't even know if I should wish him a happy birthday or not.
Any opinions on this? I would appreciate it.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Re: Sad and don't know what to do now
Yes. Stop contacting him. You already sent him a letter and a text and a message. From a place of lack. So of course he's not going to respond to that. It's your energy- think about it. For whatever reason, he didn't respond to you in a way you perceived appropriate, so now you're increasing negative momentum. You aren't thinking of this from an LOA perspective at all. The only thing that went wrong is that you became conditional in needing a response. You have to find a way to raise your vibration and not let someone influence your mind in a negative way.
If you imagine it in your mind..
Believe it in your heart..
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Yes, you are right. If my life is stressful, I often forget about LoA and it is hard for me to get into it again. I don't really get what you mean by " The only thing that went wrong is that you became conditional in needing a response". Yes, because I want contact with him. I see the worst case scenario: I never hear from him again. I know that is the worst thing I can think from a LoA perspective, but the wounds are so fresh and it is hard for me to see things from a different perspective at the moment.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Re: Sad and don't know what to do now
Why are you wounded?
If you imagine it in your mind..
Believe it in your heart..
Feel it in your soul..
You will hold it in your hand 💞
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It hurts me that he completely withdraw and I don't understand why. And the thought of loosing him completely hurts, too.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Re: Sad and don't know what to do now
But if you are a deliberate creator and you know it, then you have to see how you have attracted this through your thoughts and fears. Fix your thoughts, control your fears, guy comes back. It's as simple as that.
If you imagine it in your mind..
Believe it in your heart..
Feel it in your soul..
You will hold it in your hand 💞
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But I don't see it. I never expected something like this to happen. I still can't believe that he just disappears.
I don't feel like a deliberate creator right now. I feel rather powerless. And after not getting my ex back, I really lost trust in my ability to influence other people.
But you are right, I have to get in alignment. From the place I'm at right now, I can't win anything. Need some sleep and Abe tomorrow. Thanks for your push in the right direction.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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You won't be able to see it from a low vibration perspective. So don't try to fix anything. Just do whatever you can to raise your vibe back up. From there things will be clearer.
If you imagine it in your mind..
Believe it in your heart..
Feel it in your soul..
You will hold it in your hand 💞
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You are right. I'm not in the position to take any action and it doesn't even matter whether I wish him a happy birthday or not. I have to feel good again first. Thanks 
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Omg, Cherished, I got it! You were so right. I'm feeling much better today and I see much clearer.
At first I didn't want a serious relationship and when I fell in love I was confused. He picked up my confused vibe and didn't know what he wanted. That made me insecure and I feared on a subconscious level that he would withdraw again, also because a girlfriend of mine had a very similar situation just a few weeks ago and I saw many parallels to my guy. When the boyfriend of my friend broke up with her I hoped that the same thing wouldn't happen with my guy. So my focus was completely wrong. To cite Esther Hicks: "I did that!" LOL
Now I concentrate on the loving guy I saw just a few weeks ago who bought me chocolate, wanted me to fall asleep in his arm, cooked for me, backfilled my bottle to make sure that I drink enough, turned around to see me one last time after I got on the train and sent me text messages constantly. Can't remember him doing anything else than being nice. 
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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