Yeah, it's not uncommon to hear stories of exes and other once desired things coming back when you move on completely (probably because you were feeling better and got over the resistance/negative feelings from before?).

I've had something similar happen to me. I was moving on completely and feeling so good, I barely thought of her. And then I heard she was dating someone else and I felt sad and jealous. I quickly pulled myself back together by meditating, going for long walks, focusing on better feeling thoughts, doing my work, and feeling confident in general. Talking to new girls also helped. When I felt more positive, I felt like playing Superman's game to hopefully get her attention and it worked after 4 days (I initiated). We were flirting again and she wanted to meet up but then I realized that this just wasn't the real me, my ego wanted her because it likes to feel like a winner but in truth - I was happier without her. So the way I see it - the Universe kind of put me through a little trial even though I was feeling better because my Higher Self or whatever knew that now was the right time to face my unresolved feelings, discover more about myself and what I really want, and discover what my biggest block to feeling good is - and it was my ego all along. Would I date her again? Maybe, if it really felt right to, but it didn't. I was "loving" (desiring) her too much (not even her as she is now, just her from the past, the way she used to be, and I was so stuck on recreating the past and not accepting the joy of the present). I wasn't really giving myself the happiness I was looking for by trying so hard with her, so that "trial" taught me to stay positive and follow my intuition, it taught me more of what makes me feel free and awesome. My intuition told me to let her go and I believe I am happier for it (didn't give in to my ego).

Are you trying to move on? In that case, I'd try not to focus on this at all because you already have fears about this subject. Focus on something else that feels good and makes you feel good about yourself. Guiding your thoughts in that direction can help you to remind yourself that you are attractive and that you can manifest happiness with or without him. In other words, the resistance (bad feelings) will flow out of the bowl of your mind as you let the water of positive guidance in to overflow and your life will feel tons better. If it's so hard not to focus on this fear, then just accept your fear and find a better feeling thought with affirmations or focus blocks. I would say to myself "I feel afraid and it's OK, I accept my fear now, and I don't have to be afraid anymore because I believe I am strong, my inner power will guide me through this," and it helped me a lot. After meditating on better-feeling thoughts like that for a day, it was easier to get over the resistance (bad feelings) and just live again. Focus block may help you find a better-feeling thought to clear resistance: http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/5901/manifesting-experiment-2-the-focus-blocks-method-manifest-what-you-want-by-deliberately-feeling-better-about-it

If you still want to start a new relationship with him, focus on feeling better first like above. And then you can visualize for 5-15 min a scene where you and him are together - only if it makes you feel better or if it makes you feel the wish fulfilled. Nothing good happens when I visualize to control things because the need to control comes from fear and that's what I'm putting out. If it makes you feel bad, then visualize what makes you feel happier and more confident about yourself and your life. Keep finding those better-feeling thoughts and your focus will become your beliefs. I can't promise that this will always work for you and everyone, but it worked for me to feel more alive and confident.

 

ShootingStar wrote:

Thanks for replying Colonel Roosevelt ! well for the longest time (up until January) I wanted him back a lot, I wanted him to leave this new girl and come back from his travels for me. That didn't happen and I just let go and told him I was letting go and deleted him off social media and said it was for the best. I'm not sure what that might have done because I'm getting the vibe that he has a lot of resistance towards me right now. My agenda is basically to see him and see if we both feel something for each other and I think I'm finally now quite detched from the outcome (aka I'd be happy with or without him) however I'm nervous because I don't want to do anything that might accidentally cause a negative reaction (like a fight, drama) and this does worry me !

Being nervous and worried will definitely create and attract the exact thing you fear so stop it!!! LOL Just trust that you will see him when the time is right and you will know what to do when that happens. It could be that things are being set up to bring you what you want, but now you're creating blocks that are stopping them from happening. Focus on what you want and don't make or force anything to happen. It will all work out, in the best way possible.