In my opinion you attract those people telling you to move on because you are a vibrational match to it. You fear it. So it comes. Now, that's just my story, and thus my reality. You can put whatever spin on it you like, and THAT is what will happen. Same with everyone else. Whatever they truly believe, think , feel and project will come into physical view for them in full manifestation. It's really as simple as that. Yes, even gurus of LOA differ in their opinions. And that's because we EACH are correct in our own opinions! As we all create our lives individually, we all have creative control and therefore ALL of it is up to us, full stop 😊

Variety and the ability to choose your story is the beauty of life! Try to take other people's prejudices, fears and default opinions as simply an option to ponder. Do their ideas make you eager to agree?! Do their opinions make you feel crap? Take them or leave them, and forge ahead as a DELIBERATE CREATOR who needs NOBODY'S input on how to live life. YOU write the absolute best story you can possibly imagine and back it up ALL THE WAY with your focus upon it. And NEVER let anybody stand in opposition to what you want. EVER! That's just my opinion of how life rolls. 💜

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lar019 wrote:

LaughBella14 wrote:

Oh! I don't talk about him and loa as well! Most people think I'm nutty it I ever mention loa. Some people do know about it atleast, but from who I encounter the majority don't believe in it. No, everything you said made sense & didn't confuse me at all! But it's exactly why I feel I haven't been able to dive in to practicing fully, bc I do still doubt, bc everyone says such different stuff, and as soon as I hear free will I go ugh, so if he can choose not to come, isn't that a lot of energy and faith to put into something that he could choose to not do, & then that would be prolonging moving on? I'm doing both at the same time I find..its been 3 months without contact & as you know he has someone else... So I guess I try to attract him back but the doubt and free will thing makes me try to move on as well. Still in limbo I suppose since the answer sometimes leaves me feeling down more. :/

You're right - the idea of free will can seem like this is all for nothing. But to me, I think, if I'm the best person I can possibly be; if my energy is radiating from me like a big bright light, and it's so filled with love and fun and joy - who doesn't want to be around that? Who wouldn't want to be drawn towards me? This other girl that your guy is with has to be THAT MUCH MORE radiant, and positive and loving. And quite honestly, the majority of people do not believe in LOA, and are definitely not focusing on themselves enough to be that radiant. That's what I kept in mind when my guy was dating someone else.

Plus, I never think of it as wasted energy. I think of it as, I'm taking the time and effort to build up my energy, to become a big bright light that radiates, and once I'm there - then I focus my energy towards my guy. I'm sending him the love, and joy and drawing him in closer and closer. But just because my energy is being sent towards him, does not mean that other people won't be affected by my energy and drawn towards me either. I don't like saying "I want him or something better" - but I'm open to the idea that maybe, just maybe there might be a guy better & if that's the case, he will have to come into my life and completely blow me off my feet. My guy swept me off my feet on our first date, so this guy has to be really awesome, otherwise, I am focused on my guy.
 

Haha yes I actually have guys coming out of seemingly no where, but I want it to be my guy instead! But I'm appreciating it & it's pretty cool & im open just as you are, we just really would prefer our guys. How did you keep yourself from feeling so angry & bitter when he was with another girl? The act of him leaving me for someone else, & some of my friends who are friends with him on fb have told me he has written how happy he is with her (ugh) and calling her fiancé (ugh ugh ugh!!!! I refuse to be cool with that! lol!) obviously since they are engaged (i wish I could delete that!), still gets me stuck on anger & hating him. I have rare moments where I can feel love & happiness towards him, and so I understand how he can't come to me with those feelings, but how have you been able to get to those lovey dovey feelings & be happy about him when your guy was with that girl?

lar019 wrote:

LaughBella14 wrote:

Haha yes I actually have guys coming out of seemingly no where, but I want it to be my guy instead! But I'm appreciating it & it's pretty cool & im open just as you are, we just really would prefer our guys. How did you keep yourself from feeling so angry & bitter when he was with another girl? The act of him leaving me for someone else, & some of my friends who are friends with him on fb have told me he has written how happy he is with her (ugh) and calling her fiancé (ugh ugh ugh!!!! I refuse to be cool with that! lol!) obviously since they are engaged (i wish I could delete that!), still gets me stuck on anger & hating him. I have rare moments where I can feel love & happiness towards him, and so I understand how he can't come to me with those feelings, but how have you been able to get to those lovey dovey feelings & be happy about him when your guy was with that girl?

Well, for me, I made the realization that I really caused him to leave last time before I found out he was seeing someone new. He added this girl to his social media like 3 days before he left me, and while I suspected that maybe they were dating a bit later, after seeing a lot of back n forth on fb between them, I didn't confirm until about a month after I made peace with my role in the break up. So when I found out, I figured he did leave me for her, and figured he was looking for someone better in that moment. I was still heartbroken, and completely distraught; but I knew deep down that he wasn't trying to hurt me, he was just looking out for himself, and I can understand that. 
At that time, I hadn't found LOA yet - but I did dabble with tarot readings, and one that I got basically said that 'there was a chance of reconciliation - but my focus should be on the relationship between him & I, not her & him. If I focus on our relationship, then I would be greatly rewarded for all my time/energy/effort put in.' The reader was also a hoodoo rootworker - so her use of the word 'focus' was using hoodoo spells to improve our relationship, as opposed to using break up spell work to break them up. I didn't go towards the spellwork - but I had considered it until within a day or so started reading more about LOA, and found Veronica's youtube videos. BUT, whenever I was feeling down, and discouraged, I'd read that tarot reading as motivation to keep going. Also, I'd watch Veronica's video on "dealing with your ex seeing someone new" a lot! I really tried hard not to think about her at all, and if I did and couldn't stop - I'd think about how I could be better than her. It was like a competition; and it was 'how could I make him happier, than you can'. And I would also visualize my guy coming back to me telling me I was better, that he was miserable with her - but only at times when I really struggled getting her out of my head. Eventually though, she just became a beautiful blessing. It took a lot of effort controlling my thoughts, and not letting my mind wander. I really tried hard not to get too emotional about her, because at the end of the day, I knew that I pushed him away. 

Thank you Lar. I am feeling incredibly down right now. I just wrote a new post about how I saw that they've really started to plan their wedding. I just can't believe this. Or I can, because I created it, right?! I want to uncreate it, NOW. Thank you for sharing, & when I am feeling more centered I will reread this & try to apply it all myself.

Vera wrote:

You always create your own reality through your mind. What others say are the results of your doubts and fears in relation to your desire. You invite these people to participate in your reality, but in the end ONLY YOU create your own reality and you have the freedom to choose whether to invite them in your midst or not. 

Thanks Vera. That really is what I thought. But if only I create my reality, then only he creates his own reality too then, right? So if he does not desire me anymore & instead desires someone else, how can I really ever override his desires with my own and have him end up wanting just me again, especially when he is engaged to the new girl he left for?