There are a number of factors. Firstly your loved ones are advising you to forget him because they are using your current reality to make a judgement on what they believe will be best for.

If I had a friend right now going through a break up "I would say forget about him and concentrate on yourself, if it's meant to be it will happen" that's not them manifesting my response it just my personal assessment of their situation.

However if you constantly talk about him or show your friends that you are miserable without him, then yes you will start to manifest negative responses from them, because you are vibrating at that level. And the fact that you ask/believe that because someone tells you to forget him, that's is a sign that you should give up, that's what you will continue to attract.

The first part of their advice is not incorrect, yes you should forget about the past and the past him that you were in a relationship. From now you will reconstruct your perfect reflection and perfect vision of him and hold true to that. There is no need to discuss it with others, just have inner confidence that you know that you are doing what feels right for you.

Only you know whether he is right for you.

Last edited by Oasiscalm (3/24/2016 10:50 am)

Oasiscalm wrote:

There are a number of factors. Firstly your loved ones are advising you to forget him because they are using your current reality to make a judgement on what they believe will be best for.

If I had a friend right now going through a break up "I would say forget about him and concentrate on yourself, if it's meant to be it will happen" that's not them manifesting my response it just my personal assessment of their situation.

However if you constantly talk about him or show your friends that you are miserable without him, then yes you will start to manifest negative responses from them, because you are vibrating at that level. And the fact that you ask/believe that because someone tells you to forget him, that's is a sign that you should give up, that's what you will continue to attract.

The first part of their advice is not incorrect, yes you should forget about the past and the past him that you were in a relationship. From now you will reconstruct your perfect reflection and perfect vision of him and hold true to that. There is no need to discuss it with others, just have inner confidence that you know that you are doing what feels right for you.

Only you know whether he is right for you.

Thank you also Oasis. That's the other thing. In my mind I am trying to do exactly that, and change the view I have of him and mold my perfect vision of what I would like in regards to him and I in my mind, but no matter how positive or confident I am feeling that particular day, people are still having negative responses about him and us, so that's what made me pose this question. I usually don't bring it up first with others either, most people are always bringing it up and bashing him to me. So are you saying to continue to reconstruct my reality in my mind & just ignore what they say if it feels good to me?

big_blue wrote:

I've all together stopped talking about my guy to my close friends and family. For a while after he ended things, I talked about him not stop. Things that I liked about him, all the way to questioning why he ended it. It was a mess. I talked about him so much, my sister nicknamed him Voldemort (He-who-must-not-be-named). I knew then that I had to stop so much because her response would always upset me.

Even now, 2 years later, I still want him back in my life. I have not told my sister about him, because I know she'll say nothing nice about it. So, I have all of you on this lovely board to help guide me to get him back into my physical reality (:

Aww lol I sooo understand you!!!! Everyone I know has their own choice names for mine lol. Have you been using LOA to bring him back for 2 years, or is it a recent adventure for you?

lar019 wrote:

I talk to very few people about my guy - and the ones that I do talk to, I speak very little about him to them. They know that I am open to having him back in my life, and that is it. They have no idea I'm actively trying to manifest them, as I don't talk to anyone about LOA (except you guys!). Even my best friend - he's negative about my guy, so I don't talk to him, and the couple of times that I did, I regretted it immediately.

I think our energies can influence everyone and everything - but I think it's the strength of that energy that determines how much influence we have, and how much they can have on us. You want your guy back - you are focusing on him, actively and consciously thinking about him, therefore strengthening the energy to influence him into coming back. The other rules still apply with LOA, so vibration is key. So when you're talking to your guy for instance, and you're feeling needy, scared, he will feel that and respond accordingly. The opposite is true too - if you're happy, confident and strong, then he will feel that.
However, with a conversation with friends, you aren't really wanting to influence them in any way, so the energy isn't going to be strong. In fact, if they feel so strongly that you shouldn't be with your guy, they may be trying to influence you. 

At the end of the day, I think there is still free will at play, and this may be at an unconscious/subconscious level. So if someone is trying to influence us to be with them, but they are ALL wrong for us, or unpure intentions, etc. then I think our higher self will cause us to not be drawn in; because our higher self only wants what's best for us. I really think it's the strength & purity of our energy which creates a connection, and allows us to easily influence others.

Hopefully that doesn't confuse you more - but yes, you are going to find a million different theories on the subject, and it's more up to you to find one that really resonates in order to pursue your man. Because as long as you doubt that it's possible, then it's not going to be possible.

Oh! I don't talk about him and loa as well! Most people think I'm nutty it I ever mention loa. Some people do know about it atleast, but from who I encounter the majority don't believe in it. No, everything you said made sense & didn't confuse me at all! But it's exactly why I feel I haven't been able to dive in to practicing fully, bc I do still doubt, bc everyone says such different stuff, and as soon as I hear free will I go ugh, so if he can choose not to come, isn't that a lot of energy and faith to put into something that he could choose to not do, & then that would be prolonging moving on? I'm doing both at the same time I find..its been 3 months without contact & as you know he has someone else... So I guess I try to attract him back but the doubt and free will thing makes me try to move on as well. Still in limbo I suppose since the answer sometimes leaves me feeling down more. :/