You need a change in point of view. Instead of making him your main priority, you should make you your main priority. I am not saying to forget about him, I am saying to make him a small part of your day. How you ask? Well, in my situation, two weeks ago my partner said he wants me out of his life forever. That's when I decided enough was enough, I will be my main focus now.

I still did my visualizations on him, but I let it go and didn't think about it the rest of the day. Within a week he sent me a friend request on Facebook. I did not reply to it, instead left him hanging, so I will not continue being needy and gain back my power. Then he went on his other Facebook where we were still friends and tagged me in a post supporting old fashioned feminism.

Yesterday, he updated a photo on his new Facebook. A few days ago I had visualized telling him to upload a profile picture since he never does. I told him it has to be of his whole face and his expression has to be cool yet casual. Also, while visualizing him he was wearing a black and blue striped shirt. He was wearing that exact shirt in his profile pic. As well as, followed my exact guidelines for what kind of photo to post.

Coincidence? I think not, that was way too on point. But the thing is after I visualized I did not think about it for the rest of the day. If you have not read any Lanie Stevens books I advise you check them out on Amazon. I have been using her technique to get these results. Now back to you, there is a post on here in the self love section where I posted another technique Lanie taught me for self love, you should try it.

You should also read Go Nuts by The Giver as well, it is very inspirational. As well as, Unconditional Love by Cherished. Both posts are on this forum. Now you should try changing up your bedroom area since that is your sleeping space to feel as though you have a fresh new start. Maybe rearrange furniture and change bedsheets. Try to change up your wardrobe little by little too (wear bright or pastel colors), get a new hair style, wear a light natural  makeup (even if you don't wear any, you are just doing it to feel like a new you without going overboard), and get a set of positive friends. Don't be surprised if your love starts noticing you more.

Last edited by holistichealing (3/11/2016 11:12 am)

khushi wrote:

Thank you Holistichealing !!
Your post really made me smile ..
One more thing that bugs me is that whenever we meet by chance somewhere like when there are all friends around. I prefer not to go to those places because it just feels so awkward being there and two of the people ignoring me. Its like i have to be on a constant guard that I have to avoid those places at those timings when everyone would be there. Its too much effort in this.

In due time, once you try out the self love technique, you won't care anymore. Then he will be able to notice how much confidence you have gained.

I sense a bit of desperation and anxiousness in your post. You seem to be too overly concerned with what he's doing and not doing and who he is with. You need to change focus like holistichealing said. When you have that kind of desperate energy, people pick up on it, including your ex, and believe it or not it makes them LESS attracted to you, makes you less attractive to them, and makes them want to get away from you and not get closer. I always remember that, so it helps me to focus on being happy, confident and focused on doing what's good for me and my feelings. 

Hey friends !! Hi .. 
So I am back here to give a little update .. 
After talking to him as I told in the last post, I just kept being my happy self and believed everything would be okay. So, now we do sit together and talk with everyone like old times. Also, a day before, we had a heartful conversation, just the two of us, about whats going on in both of our lives. We talked for about 45 minutes. It was nice. So all this is good. But I still sense some sort of hesitation from his side. Like he has still not opened up. He does not sit one extra minute with me like he used to. And there is something holding him back.
There is one part of me who wants to fight with him and speak up my heart to him. And tell him how much I still like him. And then there is another very civil part of me who does not want to express itself and wants him to come to me all by himself (and also wants him to apologize for the past) without my saying anything.  And I am becoming more impatient because nothing seems to be happening. 
I am hanging somewhere between these two thought processes.. 

Thank you Pectinase for your uplifting reply !!
Well yes whatever has been happening is indeed awesome !! Its just that sometimes I feel like he wants just casual friendship. You know just the usual hi-bye sort of. And because we were good friends even earlier so he just talked normally to me so that we could be on friendly terms. But I want so much more. And it feels so amazing when I think of what I want and what lies ahead for both of us !! It feels so ecstatic and exhilarating ...