iinikkii wrote:

Hey y'all, I have a question./concern. Hopefully you don't think it's dumb...  I've been having sort of a hard time with my visualizing. Like when I try to visualize it almost seems like my mind isn't cooperating. I know it doesn't help if I'm feeling anxious, so this morning when I woke up I decided since I'm feeling relaxed and at ease this would be a good time to do it. Well, as soon as I try to visualize it's like my mind isn't projecting the pictures?? It's kind of hard to even explain.. But I figured maybe someone could help me out with it

Is your mind all over the place when doing it that you can't focus on the visual?

I just know it's should probably feel more natural..

Lol, sweet! It makes me feel tons better that I'm not the only one. I know there's no "perfect" way.. But sometimes I just feel like I'm crazy or something!

iinikkii wrote:

Ok so.. Next after he just whips around.. I don't necessarily see him walking towards me. Like, he goes from way over there to right in front of my face. Almost so fast that my mind isn't keeping up.. So then I get anxious bc I assume I'm doing it wrong, so I feel like I have to start over.. It's like a circle, and I just keep going around and around.. Haha :/

Then he must be really attached to you for that to happen. But then I can relate to that too as well and I just go with it because the point is you are getting his attention. Sometimes he is already standing in front of me, but as long as you have his attention you are fine. I have general anxiety too mind you.

Last edited by holistichealing (3/09/2016 10:49 am)

iinikkii wrote:

Hey y'all, I have a question./concern. Hopefully you don't think it's dumb...  I've been having sort of a hard time with my visualizing. Like when I try to visualize it almost seems like my mind isn't cooperating. I know it doesn't help if I'm feeling anxious, so this morning when I woke up I decided since I'm feeling relaxed and at ease this would be a good time to do it. Well, as soon as I try to visualize it's like my mind isn't projecting the pictures?? It's kind of hard to even explain.. But I figured maybe someone could help me out with it

 
Iinikki, sorry you are still struggling to get your vibration up. Don't be hard on yourself, time is the greatest healer and it can be difficult when you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, but have faith this to shall pass.

As Coco Chanel said "Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping it will transform into a door" If it doesn't feel good right now doing the visualisations then step away from them and look to addressing your anxiety and soothing that.

It may be useful if you take a step back from the ex subject and spend a few days focusing on meditating and healing yourself. Also meditating helps with visualising. This is good guided meditation and it allows your to add a bit of visualising with your guy.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=EaRu14P9H84.

Write out a list of all your best qualities and read it everyday to remind yourself that you are an awesome individual. And I find gratitude is a wonderful way to move negativity.

Try to not get from anxious to ecstasy is one go. The emotional guidance scale is useful to look up.

I hope you start feeling lighter and brighter soon.