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Getting rid of resistance about your ex.
It took me a while, but I found a great way of getting rid od resistance surrounding my ex. It seems like the universe is responding better to my reauest as well. This process was taken from the sedona method which is a great book and audio program that works wonders in getting rid of resistance.
The Sedona Method” [P 236] The Cleanup Procedure
1. Begin by visualising the face of the person you have chosen to release about.
2. Then ask yourself the following questions one at a time allowing your underlying wants to surface. Start with the set of questions about control and stay with that question until you feel that you can “grant that person the right to be”the way he or she is. Most times, completely letting go is just a decision. If you’re open to it, it’s possible to reach this point very quickly, but take all the time you need.
Control
1. Did this person try to control you? Or did it feel that way? Pause to allow for spontaneous release or ask one of the following questions
If so, could you let go now of wanting to control them back?
If so, could you let go of resisting them?
If so, would you like to change that?
2. Did you try to control this person? Pause to allow for spontaneous release or ask one of the following questions
If so, could you let go now of wanting to control them?
If so, could you like to change that?
3. Do you now grant this person the right to be as this person is? Remember that the third question is simply a decision.
Approval
1. Did you dislike or disapprove of anything in this person? Pause to allow for spontaneous release or ask one of the following questions
Could you let go, just for now, of your dislike or disapproval of this person
If so, would you like to change that?
2. Did this person dislike or disapprove of anything in you? Or did it feel that way? Pause to allow for spontaneous release or ask one of the following questions
Could you let go of wanting their approval?
If so, would you like to change that?
3. Do you have only love/acceptance feelings for this person? Remember that the third question is simply a decision.
Security / Survival
1. Did this person challenge, oppose or threaten you? Or did it feel that way? Pause to allow for spontaneous release or ask one of the following questions
Could you let go of wanting to challenge, oppose of threaten them back?
Could you let go of wanting security with this person?
If so, would you like to change that?
Did you challenge, oppose or threaten you? Or did it feel that way? Pause to allow for spontaneous release or ask one of the following questions
Could you let go of wanting to challenge, oppose of threaten this person
Could you let go of wanting to protect yourself in this way?
If so, would you like to change that?
Do you have only a feeling of well-being, safety and trust with this person? Remember that the third question is simply a decision.
N.B When you feel threatened, you’re giving your power away to another person and he or she can sense it and acts accordingly. If you’re feeling insecure, other people feel more powerful because they know intuitively that they can control, manipulate and threaten you.
- Berryluv
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Re: Getting rid of resistance about your ex.
Thank you for sharing this technique.
I like how it takes a step by step approach to how you think of the person. However, personally I think this technique is suited for those who have very deep core negative beliefs about themselves and playing the victim of another's negative beliefs. It serves someone well when they want to do some clearing while not having to change the other person, but just to see them differently. For instance those who have been through abuse, or some traumatic event.
Personally, and I can say this because I have been through physical abuse from a past relationship. I don't even dig that deep within myself to find out what purpose that person had served me. He had shown me so much contrast within myself that it was soo clear in knowing what I desired. And once I began to trust in the possibility of my desires becoming fact..I slowly broke away from that relationship..
Literally when they say, faith as small as a mustard seed.. I think my faith at the time was probably half that size, and it changed my life tremendously. I was coming from a place where I genuinely thought my ex husband would kill me and my story would end up on unsolved mysteries..I told all my friends that if they didn't hear from me, that was the case. But I knew within myself that somehow, this contrast was not my life's purpose...
So without even knowing about Neville or anything, I began focusing on the end result.. focusing on a better life without him.. I had no clue how it would happen, but in time, circumstances and events unfolded to match my desires.
I am still a work in progress, but if I spent my time worrying about him and what all of that meant I would go insane. I have just trusted that what I imagined will harden into fact and I won't even have to worry anymore.
- PlumPuppy
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Re: Getting rid of resistance about your ex.
Thanks for sharing this, this helps bring clarity and focus to what we really want.
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