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- Angellynn
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Re: At what point do you reach out to them?
Cherished wrote:
I think it's great to wait. It signals to the universe that you trust and have total faith. And that you KNOW you're manifesting like a boss! In my experience, it can go either way as others have stated. If you get this incredible push from the universe and you feel totally elated and simply wish to send them some inspirational message or are recalling a fantastic memory- then it might be ok.. BUT you have to be so beautifully aligned that you ABSOLUTELY don't need a response AT ALL. But most people are doing it from a place of "ok it's been ages I reeeeaaaaally need to know this is working!" And nope.. it won't work because your vibe won't allow it. If you end up sending, you will lose your power/energy balance, and you flip the switch back to needing and awaiting a response. You're back to victim and default creating!
My advice is to trust and expect it any day now! And keep doing what you're doing!I totally agree with this!! However in my situation my lover has messaged me a few times but I just havent felt the need to or even wanted to message back yet or at all. And I want to be aligned beautifully to the point where if I do message back I wouldn't care or not if she responded. I just like to let the universe work its magic!
Absolutely, I think you are nailing it. You will know if you are "inspired to act" because you will be joyous and it will feel marvellous in a way you've never experienced. If you don't feel THAT way about responding, don't. And anyway, it's MUCH more satisfying and entertaining to watch the universe deliver everything right into your lap! That's actually half the fun of it! And it teaches you to BELIEVE and EXPECT, which is half the battle won, right?!
Thank you! 
yes that makes sense! I haven't had any inspired action and kinda glad I haven't yet cause I'm still working on becoming the person I wanna be and its a fun journey , so when I feel like I fully am that person I want her to see the brand new me when it's time. Yeah watching the universe unfold things is magnificent and i like to flow with it, it's an accomplishement in itself when you believe and expect the universe to give you your desires
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Re: At what point do you reach out to them?
Angellynn, you posted in the 11's which resonates with me 😘 And I'm so happy for you- to watch other people reaching their alignment is so beautiful. Thank you xx
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Re: At what point do you reach out to them?
You never reach out to them This is the golden rule! I know other people may advise other things, but you always want to trust the Universe is orchestrating this reconciliation. If you contact them, you show lack and mistrust. You want it to be the right time, and you need them to come to you with an open heart. This can only happen if "they" approach you This is one of the biggest mistakes people make. Trust me - it's worth the wait!
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So if you have been using LOA for a month or so without any results other than some small signs...at what point do you finally reach out to them?
I ask because in Elizabeth Daniel's book..she suggest 3 weeks of no contact with hopes that during that time the ex will reach out to you (because they develop a "missing you"). But in some cases they may not miss you or their missing you isnt strong enough to warrant them to reach out to you! If this occurs, she says wait 6 weeks and then reach out to them.
What do you guys think? I personally plan to stay absolutely NC and let the Universe do its thing.
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Re: At what point do you reach out to them?
Angellynn, you posted in the 11's which resonates with me 😘 And I'm so happy for you- to watch other people reaching their alignment is so beautiful. Thank you xx
Aww awesome! I'm glad! 😁 Thank you love! I can really feel myself growing as a new person now and finding my purpose.
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Re: At what point do you reach out to them?
You never reach out to them
Veronica
So if you have been using LOA for a month or so without any results other than some small signs...at what point do you finally reach out to them?
I ask because in Elizabeth Daniel's book..she suggest 3 weeks of no contact with hopes that during that time the ex will reach out to you (because they develop a "missing you"). But in some cases they may not miss you or their missing you isnt strong enough to warrant them to reach out to you! If this occurs, she says wait 6 weeks and then reach out to them.
What do you guys think? I personally plan to stay absolutely NC and let the Universe do its thing.
Awesome! Thank you Veronica!
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Re: At what point do you reach out to them?
When I saw this thread earlier I was going to write "you (can) reach out of them when it feels good," but Colonel Roosevelt beat me to it.
Firstly, I love this classic post by I Love Rainbows about breaking no contact -- here:
Basically, she says that no contact should be broken only in two circumstances: one, if you feel it's inspired action, and two, if you just feel you couldn't possibly feel better unless you contacted them.
I know that no contact is the golden rule, and I wouldn't contradict that, but at the same time, I think that it's unlikely that you'll ever go really wrong with inspired action. Also, sometimes I think that the fear of making mistakes causes us to make mistakes. That is, the universe may present us with the perfect opportunity for something (not necessarily making contact -- it can be anything under the sun, like dealing with a colleague etc.) and we can just stuff it up because it seems to be against the rules and we don't want to break those rules. I don't know, just my opinion.
Sometimes your intuition can give you a strong prod to do something that doesn't seem logical, but after you've done it, you'll find that it was a stroke of genius and you couldn't have consciously predicted all the good things that came of it.
Also, with mistakes ----- I think even if we do do something really awfully horrible and terrible and mess up in a major way, there will be other chances. I don't really like Abraham but I was listening to some videos recently and they say that some people are too afraid to make mistakes -- that they're not reaching out for everything they could have because they don't want to put a foot wrong.
Here:
This is just something I've been thinking about in general recently--- "reaching for more aliveness...", even if it involves taking risks and living in a place out of my comfort zone. [Well, I'm doing that a lot at the moment, actually, maybe more than is healthy lol.]
So with no contact---I agree with the rule, after all, if your ex has broken it off anything you send them is likely going to come from a place of fear, lack, or desperation---but sometimes all rules deserve to be broken, and I think whatever the rule is, your intuition should be your guide.
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Re: At what point do you reach out to them?
I did break no contact actually. But this was at a point where I felt that I didn't care what the outcome was, but I was going crazy by not contacting him. It was like the Universe told me to contact him. The interesting thing though is that he would always take hours to respond to me when we were dating. But this time, he was responding right away. It would always stress me out waiting for a response from him when we dated. But when I texted him, I didn't care if I got a response or not, but just trusted the Universe would do it for me. I kind of did take matters into my own hands but I felt like I needed to. I still feel like I need to because I feel that if I am waiting for it, my reactence just goes high. Maybe it's different for others though.
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