I was experiencing the same thing. I used to visualise every day without fail, but I was not being unattached and truly focusing on myself and my happiness. Now I don't even visualise and I'm getting results fast. Sometimes visualising too much can actually make you feel more obsessive, if you let it. Take a break for a few days and relax a little.

Sam wrote:

confused1077 wrote:

what type of results are you getting?

You completely ignored everything else she said.

Why does everyone here think I'm a girl?

I know i need to work on myself again. I will but I feel like that wont even fix it.I made another mistake and texted him again ..I mentioned that he seems distant now and he said that its me that is getting that idea because he doesn't talk to me or something. He then said we can go with the flow and we are good stop blowing up his phone with sorry and sh** . I asked you hate when I said i was sorry even though i brought it up. He said yes I hate when you drag it on. We are good. End it. Leave it alone. I said I will trust him and i was going to explain why i feel the way i do ad he said I know I understand You want clarity. I said not really and I said I can explain it but i dont have to. He said go ahead. I said if your busy I can always talk to you in person or later. He said another time then.I then asked what he is up to and he said going to see Fury Road with Aly ( a mutual friend) I said I kinda hope you didnt tell her I was talking to you...he said it is fine. I then said well you already know why I said that too ( mutual friends are sick of us and probably me more so mentioning this stuff which i have stopped doing but i hate it if he mentioned it to her) I then said I m just gonna shut up now... he said ok. I said ok hope to talk to you soon and you can punch me next time you see me ( trying to joke) got nothing back . I know I messed up and I feel like it is big time. Now I fear not getting invited out with mutual friends and stuff. I feel like I messed up HUGE like I cannot change this situation... i feel like I am never gonna have him back, I feel like i just no matter what I do these things will not work out... I only have myself to blame... I feel like I keep going deeper and deeper. I feel like even working on myself this stuff wont work. I feel like I just wiped clean any of the work i did with pussy whip....

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I know if you guys see above I texted him again...I feel like I ruined it and any chance...or I ruined any invite with mutual friends ... Can I make a miracle out of this situation?

Jeez, Confused, seriously – you need to take a break from this guy and FOCUS ON YOURSELF. Spend time on your own, treating yourself, doing things. You're going crazy over this guy and tripping yourself up in the process. Just focus on feeling good. Seriously, look at that wall of text you've just written. You're overanalysing every little detail.

You've been given so much incredible, free, kind advice on this forum and Lanie's but I don't know how much of it you're actually taking in because you seem to be going in circles. Your neediness and worry and panic over this dude will NOT attract the realtionship with him and it is NOT the foundation for a healthy relationship in the first place. You need to sort yourself out before you get into anything heavier and romantic with this guy.

You really need to chill out, take a step back, and forget this dude for a bit. Focus on a good feeling.