Don't give up anything is possible .. Let him take the time he needs to realize that your the girl for him and your meant to be together .. Some people just need time apart for a little while and then they come back together stronger then ever .. You can have him please don't give up I've been trying for two years and I'm still determined we're all in this together you can do this please stay strong and not give up . Nothing is ever set in stoned

Last edited by Love5278 (8/09/2015 12:13 pm)

CarpeDiem wrote:

Guys?

 
Yup. I posted several long responses to you throughout most of yesterday trying to give you and others strong, inspired, heartfelt advice pertaining to your current situation.  It's unfortunate that you chose to delete the entire thread. I'd really encourage you  next time to keep the threads alive so that others can continue to learn alongside you and also contribute. I know you said it was full of negativity. But that's simply where you are right now, and it's perfectly fine to acknowledge that. 😘

I've working at this for about a year with Veronica.  My ultimate goal is a NEW relationship with my ex.  New because the old one didn't work or we would still be together. New because we are different people. New because I know it can be better than what we had.

We were together just about two years and six weeks after we broke up, he started dating someone new. During the beginning of his "relationship", he and I still talked most days, even sexted. We were sexting the night before his "relationship" went Facebook official. He jumped into that one because we were on our way back together because we had done this before.  He was afraid. 

However, he's not let me go.  It's been almost a year and he's still dating her (at least I assume so... I've made his Facebook off limits for myself, though he still checks mine out and likes things on occassion). However, when we are both at work at the same time (Oh, forgot to mention... she works at the same company too), he seeks me out.  He hugs me so tightly that I can feel his dampness through his clothes. I've had co-workers who know our history ask when we got back together after he walks away from me. I've had several other co-workers who know very little about us tell me how natural we look together and how they can see how badly he wants to come back. I've gotten to the point where it is funny to hear.  It's like everyone can see where this is going BUT him.

We are both adults, so I've made the decision to not "help" him out of his "relationship".  In the past, I would have likely seduced him and then ratted him out. I do believe that I could have already had him in my bed at this point. However, I'm not going to be the other woman, I'm going to be THE Woman. 

In my situation, it's all his ego and pride that is holding him back. He cares about what other people think. I know this as a fact because when we tried a second time, he admitted to asking his friends' opinions. I asked him NOT to date this person because I knew that working where we work, it would be nothing but fodder for gossip.  Our "triangle" was and still is.  I just ignore the dirty looks I get when he leaves from visiting me.

I know he'll realize that worrying about what people think isn't making him happy.  I know that he'll finally admit to himself AND me that us being together is what makes him happy. 

In the meantime, I'm doing me.  I'm focusing on things that make me happy. I date, go out with friends, and generally enjoy my time alone.  I'm doing my best to embrace that every thing happens for a reason and anything that is mine can not be withheld from me.  It'll appear at its right time.