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Hi everyone!!
I really enjoy this forum!
I would like some advice please?
So I have been doing the PW method for a few weeks to get my ex back and feeling very confident and assured as time goes on that he is on his way. As well as signs from the universe. Im also feeling like my life is good without him. And I am patient.
So anyway, the issue is that I have a friend who knows the history of me and my guy and thinks that I am stupid for wantimg him. She makes me feel so bad. She brings up my age (just turned 26) and that I need to not be worried about him and im getting too old to be trying to get with him and deal with his stuff. She thinks he is weird and that im wasting my time. She thinks she is giving tough love but it really hurts bc she doesnt know him and has never met him. She comes up with her own conclusions about him bc we have been maje snd forth for 3.5 years and he is 31. She sats he is too old to nit want to commit that I need yo move on or just use him for FWB. Shes like hes never gonna marry you. You need to think about that youre almost 30! You will be 30 soon. Stop it! We are roommates and sje us the only person Ive told about our breskup. Sje doesnt know Im using the techniques. But she gets mad when I brimg him up and says he did you wrong he doesnt care about you dont tslk about him anymore. Move on. Once again she hasnt met him or fully knows the dynamic between us abd the bits Zive told her She makes me feel do doubtful, stupid and pathetic. I love him and I know despite our issues he loves me too.
Its just do disheartening bc she is the only one I can talk too and her seeming stern disdsin for "us" mskes me feel like msybe she is right Zi should give up. I just feel so so pathetic when I talk to her. What fo you guys think?
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honestly,
what you are experiencing now is result of your past thoughts...
irrespective of what anyone says.... you can desire what you want and with LOA have it...
its entirely up to you!!!
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I know how you feel. Everyone around me tells me the same thing. That I should move on. But it's our choice who we love. If you feel he is right for you do it. I try not to bring him up in talks with my close ones because it makes me sad to hear bad things about him. But in my heart he us always there
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Almost of my LOA friends are here.. The rest of them are CBD's.... Creators by default π But that's ok, so was I before. I don't allow myself to get sucked into certain conversations. I nod and smile and exclaim "OMG!" in all the right places, but if the topic is something that creates resistance within me I simply wander off, or go find snacks or something!
AND what you will find is that your circle of friends will either be influenced to higher vibrations with you, or you simply won't have as many interactions with them. You attract more like-minded people eventually. We are all here to experience what we desire, and we all have different desires. Whatever doesn't resonate with you, simply don't take it on board. You can be polite and pass it off easily in front of them, and then when you're driving home by yourself you can say "pffffffft, NO WAY BUDDY, THIS IS THE REALITY I'M CREATING!"
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31 isn't even old? Hahahaha.
You and your friend are not in a vibrational match right now. Come talk to us instead. <3 I don't talk to my friends about these things because I know the response will not be favorable and who needs that negative energy?!
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I've been in the same situations before with my lover, and everyone always had something negative to say about her or us not being together.. I recently told my mom that I'm doing LOA and I desire to have my love return back to me and she was just saying things I did not want to hear, but I didn't give into it I told her I respected her opinion, but I am going after what I want no matter what. So just have a mindset and focus only on what YOU what despite what others say if you have to just block them out. I know how it feels especially when your friends talk bad about your lover, but they are different people and their thoughts and opinions don't really matter most times. In your situation your friends comments don't matter as long as you believe then you will achieve and receive. When she says those things maybe it is because she experienced something with a lover and doesn't have hope, but knowing LOA is the key to everything!!
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Himanshupatil wrote:
honestly,
what you are experiencing now is result of your past thoughts...
irrespective of what anyone says.... you can desire what you want and with LOA have it...
its entirely up to you!!!
I never really connected those dots. Thank you! Didn't think her words were my reflection..
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Michelle wrote:
I know how you feel. Everyone around me tells me the same thing. That I should move on. But it's our choice who we love. If you feel he is right for you do it. I try not to bring him up in talks with my close ones because it makes me sad to hear bad things about him. But in my heart he us always there
Yes, I know he is my soulmate! Its so hard not to talk about him the thought of him brings me so much joy - as cheesy that is. But I will just talk here avout him if you guys don't mind.
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Cherished wrote:
Almost of my LOA friends are here.. The rest of them are CBD's.... Creators by default π But that's ok, so was I before. I don't allow myself to get sucked into certain conversations. I nod and smile and exclaim "OMG!" in all the right places, but if the topic is something that creates resistance within me I simply wander off, or go find snacks or something!
AND what you will find is that your circle of friends will either be influenced to higher vibrations with you, or you simply won't have as many interactions with them. You attract more like-minded people eventually. We are all here to experience what we desire, and we all have different desires. Whatever doesn't resonate with you, simply don't take it on board. You can be polite and pass it off easily in front of them, and then when you're driving home by yourself you can say "pffffffft, NO WAY BUDDY, THIS IS THE REALITY I'M CREATING!"
Cherished is like my virtual twin, from anot her mother, maybe separated by a few years apart.. I don't know.. kidding..
But seriously don't worry about the friends, she is only feeding off what you were vibrating when you were with him, or how you feel about him know. You are the creator of your own reality. You choose what you want in life. I have friends who I love dearly and would do anything for, but when it comes to the topic of dating, love and men, it just seems like we don't discuss it because I am vibrating at a much higher level than her. And I don't look down on her, but I refuse to lower my vibration just to have a conversation. She has to raise hers to share with me, and it will always work that way. That's why this forum is so great, because we have one common goal, no.. not getting our exes back.. raising our vibration. I love you guys here. Ever wonder why the highest vibrating threads have like over 3 pages or so of posts?.. we are attracting higher and higher vibrations. Ever wondered if you were feeling down and posted something low and a refer comments your vibration went up? Or someone posts something and you say "wow that's just want I needed to hear".. that's not coincidence. . That's what youre attracting. And you all wonder how it's soo difficult to manifest a relationship and you're not getting it right.. you are manifesting a higher vibration through this forum right now.. you did it.. it wasn't forced.. it came to you. Now give yourself some credit for being a bad ass creator and go out there and bring us some success stories we can loathe about on the forum.
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Cherished wrote:
Almost of my LOA friends are here.. The rest of them are CBD's.... Creators by default π But that's ok, so was I before. I don't allow myself to get sucked into certain conversations. I nod and smile and exclaim "OMG!" in all the right places, but if the topic is something that creates resistance within me I simply wander off, or go find snacks or something!
AND what you will find is that your circle of friends will either be influenced to higher vibrations with you, or you simply won't have as many interactions with them. You attract more like-minded people eventually. We are all here to experience what we desire, and we all have different desires. Whatever doesn't resonate with you, simply don't take it on board. You can be polite and pass it off easily in front of them, and then when you're driving home by yourself you can say "pffffffft, NO WAY BUDDY, THIS IS THE REALITY I'M CREATING!"
Hahaha. Thank you! I like the idea of just getting snacks. Well when she gets in these rants I feel bad and I just move away from her. Its hard since we live together but I go in another room. She is just so disdainful about him and I..its crazy. But yes I know that it is my reality I am creating. And she doesn't know him. Hes a great man and I will marry him at the right time. I am happy about your response. Thanks again.