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This is an excerpt from 'An Uncommon Bond' written by Jeff Brown. Interested to know if anyone has read it?
"Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another- they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives- they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality. Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love's leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don't- they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is no easy path- readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover. "
Last edited by Cherished (1/31/2016 4:11 am)
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that is beautiful. the first sentence sums up what my problem was. whole thing blows me awayΒ
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Wow. That's a powerful quote. Dynamite!
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I have never read this book, but can I tell you I would love to visit your library.
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this actually didnt make me feel very good for some reason, i felt suddenly like without power like if my inner work wouldnt have to lead to what i want as if there is some other reason away from me, why that happen, then I cant influence it, right?
or did I misunderstood?