I really hate reading your posts because you're SO CLOSE to getting the exact relationship you want, but you're messing it up with all of this initiated contact.

Simply put, stop contacting him and focus on you and he'll come chasing after you!!!!!
 

When we want something badly we will rationalise any action we take. So in this case where you say I contact him out of love, it is easy to dismiss the other wants and needs that are pushing you to contact him.

I agree with Forget, stop contacting him, he knows where u are he won't forget you. Get out of your own way and stop trying to control how you are going to get the relationship u desire.

Keep up the good vibes, enjoy life, drop the worry and just let it happen.

ForgetYourEvil wrote:

I really hate reading your posts because you're SO CLOSE to getting the exact relationship you want, but you're messing it up with all of this initiated contact.

Simply put, stop contacting him and focus on you and he'll come chasing after you!!!!!
 

 
I fully agree with Forget, let him chase you, let him come to you on his own, it never works long term the other way round, even if there seem to be progress, he needs to feel like he wants to contact you and he will never feel that if you are in the way

I think you are confusing your contacting him with inspired action.

Inspired action often feels like a force outside of you. You won't need to anyalsis and rationalise " that because I'm contacting him out of love it's ok." There is still an undercurrent of need when approaching it that way.

Of course you should reply to him, but there is no need to initiate contact. It will serve you well too,  because in the time that you are thinking of a reason to contact him, you would be better served getting on with your own life.

To me this is what is inspired action - When I was trying to attract back an ex, we had no contact for approx 4 mths, it was like a stalemate. I had gone through all the processes and had detached fully and knew it would happen. One night in the middle of the night I got up and sent him a message via Facebook  just saying " hi". I then turnt of the computer and went back to sleep. I had absolutely no understanding as to why I did it and oddly had no expectation of him answering. The next morning I woke up to him replying back on Facebook, SMS and whatsapp. A day later I replied and we spoke for ages a week later we got back together.

I just tell u this because honestly when it's going to happen it wil happen and it won't be due to any plotting or planning or your part.