exactly, the break up hit us so much that we gave the power to the other version of our guy, the not loving one who doesnt care for us and by focusing on that, that version became stronger in our reality

as each of us has many different versions of us, so we can just give power to the version of him who adores us even more than at the beginning, and the more we remind ourselves of that version of him and give focus there, the sooner this nicer version becomes stronger

also i realized that for long time he wanted me and i kept saying no, only friends but he probably insisted also (unknowingly) in his thoughts as he wanted me to be his
by doing that he influenced me and he gave power to the loving part of me, the women who wants to be girlfriend and in a beautiful relationship (as before that i wanted to stay single)

so he insisted till i became my best version and the one who loves him and wants him

so we can reverse that and focus on his loving side as he did focus on our loving part at the beginning

the more I read the new book (http://www.theforbiddenparapsychology.com/), a bit similar to Laines method, the more powerful I feel, the more I think its easy to have, will be fast to attain and keep

BTW read that book, its really amazing. I havent finished yet and nearly cant keep it away from me and had to push myself today to do some work also as its a working day and i need to grow my business not only read books :-) but this one is worth it

also when i put my empowering thoughts into words in here, it helps me to realize them more, so maybe some of you may think, yes thats obvious, so sometimes I feel i talk to myself and make sure I understand it better so when i write it here, it feels more clear and it helps me :-)