Dear holistichealing, everything happens for a reason. Go with the flow and things will happen in the way it should. Keep focusing on your vision and it will fruit soon. All is well!

Sending love and light!

awesomepeace wrote:

I know exactly how you feel and it's tough but yes you have answered your own question. I think maybe you should take a step back recharge your positive vibrations. Read your post when he said the L word. And see how much the law of attraction is working in your case, he's getting confused because of exactly what you said about thinking about the past.
Reading this has helped me because I'm doing exactly the same and getting the same results, so a good lesson to prove have faith that being grateful and positive and certain will get us what we desire. The past has gone. Perhaps do the exercise that you rewrite the day how it should have been. And don't contact him just know you'll hear from him showing you love.

I know what you mean, my guilt led him to say those things. He spoke about how he is scared it will happen again. Then he brought up how I gave him an eating disorder, which I did influence it because I always made fun of his body at one point. But then I made a point about how I told him I was sorry and went a step further to make him eat and compliment him. That if I didn't care, I would have left him to suffer. As well as he brought up how bad our relationship is now and how my friends hate him. I told him that it could be fixed. His final response was, "W.e let's just take small steps." Even though he said whatever I will just have faith that things will work out. I mean I personally see myself growing. Which leads me to my next question, is it possible for me to have faith that he will have faith in me again?

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Sam wrote:

holistichealing wrote:

Sam wrote:

Of course it's possible. You have just gotten off track a little bit and that's okay. You have to get back to focusing on love. Remember, that's the most important thing. Just show him love no matter what and it will transform before your eyes just like it did the first time. You know how things can change, so don't let this get you down. When your mind goes to the past just try to gently find a better thought. You can't keep punishing yourself. You're a different person now. So focus on love in all areas and it will all work out. You can do this.

I love your quote at the bottom. I feel like just noticing now was a way of telling me to keep going and being positive. I mean I still believe that things will work out in the end.

Things will absolutely work out. 😊

I remember how they say things happen for a reason. Instead of it just being from my guilt it can also be to test my strength. That now I can explain things to him more easier without panic and he will come to see how much our relationship is actually improving instead of getting worst.

holistichealing wrote:

Sam wrote:

holistichealing wrote:

I remember how they say things happen for a reason. Instead of it just being from my guilt it can also be to test my strength. That now I can explain things to him more easier without panic and he will come to see how much our relationship is actually improving instead of getting worst.

Exactly! Part of our individual journeys is to experience contrast and from this constraint we learn so much, and we become better versions of ourselves. This is why I always try to flip the "bad" things right around and look of the bright side. There is always a way you can turn things around to a positive and the more you do that, the easier it becomes. Eventually the things that once brought you down start to bounce off of you instead!

True, he canceled Fridays plans, but he is still talking to me.

I got Lanie's book, I am going to try it out.

Berryluv wrote:

You ever heard of the saying, 'worrying is like a rocking chair, it feels like it's moving but takes you nowhere.' No? Ok maybe I made that up or heard a variation of that somewhere. But what I'm trying to say is, don't worry about it. It doesn't do you any good to worry, and most of the time we worry about a problem that doesn't even exist. And speaking of exist, in our perfect world's that we desire it doesn't exist. Accept a change of plans with grace and just keep know it's the universe's Devine planning that has your back.

Yes, I kinda got caught up in my guilt today. I don't know why. I went to sleep feeling fine after trying Lanie's method. Then woke up worried and guilty.