It does make sense. I think what you might be dealing with is the bridge of events. If you’ve been living in the wish fulfilled and are truly comfortable and happy on your own, then it’s only natural that your lover will return.

To use my own example, it turns out the third party has been out of the picture for a couple of months now. But if my husband had immediately come home as soon as that happened, it wouldn’t have worked. There wouldn’t have been enough space between him being in that state and being in a state of committed to me. He had to come to terms with some things for himself before he could bring himself to connect with me.

So, there are probably things happening for you as well that you’re not aware of, all leading to your wish fulfilled. The key is to deny the evidence of your senses. It might look like he’s not with you, but you might have already manifested this without knowing it.

Anonymous, I’m so glad that was helpful for you! Omg I can’t believe he actually used those exact words, you look like a troll. Lol... I guess it wouldn’t have felt funny if you hadn’t actually been thinking it. But yes, we see what we expect to see, whether we’re conscious of it or not. It reminds me of my ex mother in law, who used to give me crap about my hypochondria (at the time). She would always tell me if I go looking for illness, chances are I’m going to find it. And she was right. I suffered whatever it was only as long as I expected the illness to exist. That’s not to say we shouldn’t go to the doctor when we’re sick, but eventually I did learn not to put my attention on perceived wrongness, but rather to focus on health. It works the same for anything.

Hi Anonymous!

Just a couple of thoughts, starting here where you wrote: “he’s so good at hiding his feelings and he’s really sensitive”. There’s another version of him that on some level you’re aware of, and must have experienced at some point to some degree, where he’s expressive and articulate with his feelings. The version you’re currently seeing is the one reflecting your belief that you looked horrible, among other things. You need to revise this belief about yourself, even if it’s only a temporary one. The eyes of love see only beauty, showered or not. See yourself with those eyes, and the him that is you pushed out will reflect that back to you eventually. It couldn’t hurt to imagine him feeling secure in himself, too. It sounds like he’s insecure, and that’s why he blocked you again. See him feeling good about sharing positive emotions, feeling safe to share with others. That would be a loving revision for him, which I bet you'll get to experience directed at you someday soon — without the phone malfunction! If you keep affirming that he’s good at hiding his feelings, and being “Done” with relationships, then you’ll create situations that make that a reality, like the interrupted FaceTime.

If I may...
You wrote, “I'm doing everything you say in your videos and still nothing.” I may be wrong, but in at least a few videos it’s stressed that you have to not initiate contact. Every situation is different. In mine, my husband and I still shared household responsibilities, so some contact was necessary. I had to learn eventually, though, to never initiate contact that wasn’t household related, and then it had to be light and brief. This was very difficult to master, but I don’t regret it. I got it as close to NC as possible, so that when he finally did reach out, it was amazing and there could be no doubt that it was him genuinely wanting to do it.

I think of the quote from Yoda in Star Wars, to Luke Skywalker: “You must unlearn what you have learned.” Currently, your SP has “learned” that he never needs to initiate contact with you, because you will always text him first. I know it’s really, really hard, but you have to unlearn the behavior of being the one to reach out to him. You have to give that love to yourself first. Really feel that you are loved already, and then give him the opportunity to reflect that back to you. It’s excruciating at times, resisting sending that text. But if you really want results, that’s what you have to do. It’s a way not only to love and respect yourself, but also to teach others how to love you.

You’ve waited three weeks before for a response to the contact you initiated. Why not try waiting three weeks without initiating instead, and use that time for self love and living in the wish fulfilled?

Otherwise, you might manifest the relationship, but it will be one that holds the same energy of you continuing to initiate, with him sitting back never meeting you halfway. In that sense, you’ve already manifested him. Just not in the state that you’d prefer. So like ChaliceSnowFlower asked, what state would you rather experience?

Hello, Forum!

I’ve been gone a bit, mostly because I was feeling really negative and needed to re-align. But I’m inspired to come back now and share this small manifestation, which doesn’t feel so small at all given the bigger picture.

So, it’s been almost six months since my husband moved out. We’re not totally no contact because we still share household responsibilities, mainly bill stuff. But I finally managed to stop myself from contacting him for anything other than that, and even then only a short friendly text to give him info he needs.

Finally, after driving myself batty with tormenting thoughts, I fully embraced Neville’s teachings, about two weeks ago. Then, a few days ago, I downloaded Veronica’s books The 25-Day Challenge and How to Get Your Ex Back in 25 Days. I am now on Day Two of the 25-day challenge, and guess what? After I had sent a short, joking text about a money thing, ten minutes later, he called me! On Day Two! And not to talk about the text, either. He just wanted to chat to see how I was doing! And we talked for twenty minutes about all kinds of things. Just light, friendly, catching up like a couple of old friends. This is big, because he literally hasn’t called just to chat in several months.

All I can say now is that if anyone here has hesitated buying Veronica’s books, don’t! Run out and grab your copy, and embrace what she has written there. Use the techniques. They work! I’m so encouraged right now, and am in absolute awe. I’m going to keep going with this, and will update with another mani SOON Thank you, Veronica!

Xoxo
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