Hi lovelies, I need some advice..

A while ago I was out at a bar with my work friends, I saw this guy who I was attracted to but wouldn't go over and talk to him because I was with others. My colleague ended up going up to him and speaking to him on my behalf and gave him my number, I didn't realise until the next day..

I never heard from him and I remember thinking to myself 'oh well, it wasn't meant to be'. The next morning I wake up to a notification on my phone from Tinder (I thought I'd give it a go..) I had a new match and it was him...  I didn't realise until later and I was so shocked. I messaged him later that day and commented that I recognised him, he remembered me!

Anyway, the last thing I said to him was that he could have my number and it would be nice to meet up. I haven't heard since - I keep finding that I try not to get down and have negative thoughts, but they take over. I keep focusing on him not messaging and putting myself down.

I was tempted so send another message as i don't think he goes on it much (he took a fair few days to respond initially)...

I need some advice and support lovelies - How can I remain positive and attract a date with him?

Thanks ☺️❤️

Hey lovelies ☺ I haven't posted in a while.. I come on here every few days just to see how everyone is as I love reading the stories.

My ex is currently seeing someone else and at first I really stuggled - I kept looking through the photos, getting myself down. Now I'm much better and whenever I think of it, I just shake that thought off. I haven't given up on my ex, but I feel like I really have let go. I still visualise when I feel happy, but it was bringing me down so much I just wasn't living my life or being me.

Anyway... recently a guy I was seeing during my second year of uni has kind of come back into my life. I've always really liked him, and we got on so well when we were dating. It kinda just stopped because we got busy and neither of us wanted a relationship.

Well, I jokingly downloaded tinder with my friend and he and I matched - I was quite surprised he even came up! I messaged him on New Years and we've been chatting ever since which has been lovely ☺

I just need your advice.. I sometimes feel doubts coming in where I put myself down like I don't think I'm good enough. Or I worry that he'll stop texting me.. it's so silly, I know.

He's hopefully starting a job in London later this year, so he'll be even closer to where I am. He even said it would be 'ideal'.

I often feel I overthink and I don't know why.

I just wondered whether visualising us texting and even meeting up would help. I was tempted to try some RS (just to see 😎). What do you guys think? Also I was going to maybe initiate meeting - I just need to be in a higher vibe.

Any advice lovelies? I haven't given up on my ex at all, I just firmly believe if it's meant to be, it will. Me obsessing and getting myself down was awful, and now I am so so so happy. Being interested in another guy, I never thought I would!

Thanks for the advice ❤

Amy wrote:

It is a manifestation of some thoughts believes an feelings from the past. Your and his relationship exists and is in the process..keep doing your thing,feel happy,visualise,act as if and complitely ignore that girl,she mustn't exist in your mental world, she is  unexisting,fictive character. Othervise you are creating more of her in his and your life You have to see you and him together..give time,doesn't matter when will it hapen, 2 weeks, 6 months or a year and a half..just be persistant and know he is yours

 
I agree - I had these fears of him moving on quickly and doing a rebound when we broke up and haha.. its happened! I really have learnt so much, I love myself and I know I am the most important person.

I won't give up, I know it's a rebound and it doesn't mean anything. I'm still going to visualise and send him love, because I do love him. I'm just going to trust the universe and not force anything - I think this actually really taught me something  too about detachment..

Is it bad if I date others?

So I've been doing so well, I was so positive and I've been doing visualisation, RS and a bit of scripting when I felt like it.. I had no doubts and really felt good.

Today I quickly checked Instagram and bam.. the first thing I see is a post by my love.. he took a picture of a girl ice skating and tagged her, she did the same with him. My heart sunk and I was in shock. I ended up unfollowing him and blocking him, I just couldn't bare to see anything else.. 

I called my friend who had just seen it herself. Now, I felt sad and I did cry but I'm surprised at how not sad I've been. I feel like with this process I really have learnt to love myself and because I've learnt to appreciate so many things, I started to see how I really didn't need to depend on him (or any guy)  for happiness. After today I appreciated my friends even more.

All day I've thought on and off. I'm more disappointed in him, it's only been 2 months since we broke up and it was pretty mutual, however when we ended he was the one who said 'I don't want to rush into anything else, I'm not looking for anything else.. I love you and believe me it's going to take a long time to get over you' and then this.. 2 months.

Guys, I don't know what to do. I have put so much into this, and I know the universe has got my desire and it's been made.. but now I feel like 'why bother?' It's like I feel I should just look fo someone else. Like I feel upset, but not as upset or broken as I know I would have felt if this were a month ago.

Of course I'm still focusing on me, as I really am fine on my own. I just keep saying to myself 'This is a rebound' 'She won't treat him as well as I did'.

I've read so many success stories where there other half has had a relationship and they've got them back despite this rebound. I'm just so lost. He never posted pictures of me and him, and he has with her.

I really do love him, he's special.

I've had a lot of interest from other guys and so many compliments, but I tur

How have you been? 😄