I think a lot of it is there is a lack of clarification so people are running around not understanding how LOA works. Veronica mostly works on ex-back, just as Lanie and Agnes do. There's so much more to LOA than a relationship so people don't understand why they need to be in a place of self-love. Honestly, I read Lanies books and watched a lot of Veronica's YouTubes before I ever cracked open an LOA book. I couldn't understand why all these challenges included taking time for myself or indulging in myself. It is understated, but the most crucial part of LOA.

I agree with mental health issues being a big issue here. I question if some people have mild depression or full blown psychosis some days. Sometimes I read things that make me "WOW" aloud. Nothing insulting or nasty, but more "is this poster mentally sound or should they have a psychiatrist monitoring them?".  Very rare, but that's a big scare for me, personally.

Script a nice vacation or dinner with the parents. Maybe some whisper techniques to them. Parents are funny. Sometimes just riding it out and letting them see how good something is will change their minds. I wouldn't stress too much, though. Resistance to it won't help.

They also have headbands with Bluetooth.

ThisDude wrote:

80saeaak wrote:

My thoughts.... if you have had absolutely no contact with her and she randomly texted you with this, she's feeling the urge and resisting. Like she's trying to justify in her own head that she's feeling it, but she doesn't want it.

That brings up a whole new thing, though. You keep affirming to yourself "she loves me". That's kind of backwards. You should be sending unconditional love, meaning even if she doesn't come back to you, you still love her and wish her the best. If she's resisting, are you willing to overpower what she wants? Personally, I don't believe in free will and think you can absolutely break someone's "will". Is that the measure you want to take to make this happen? I only ask because over seen a few posts on a few forums about people realizing they were RSed by people they absolutely don't want and it makes them feel violated. Personal morals and ethics come into play here. The question is if you get her back, do you want then possibly of having to continue to try to attract this one person for the rest of your life? And you may want to ask yourself what you're lacking in self-love that you feel the need to get it from her.

I'm rooting for you. I just think our ego gets in the way of what's best sometimes.

This was well put but I must say that if the love between them was real and now he's working on himself to become better AND he's also sending her love, she might be feeling it but not feeling it properly (yet), in a way.
Her mind might still be stuck on what happened in the past and therefore she's not willing to reestablish a relationship (yet) and so she believes closure is the best thing to do.

It's still odd to me that she would randomly bring that up, it's more like she's trying to convince herself that it was really "for the best".

@Lj, if 80saeaak is right, you really need to become a better version of yourself and fast! You don't want the old relationship because that ended poorly, you want

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