Ex/Specific Person Discussion » Need help with my SP » 7/11/2020 1:31 pm |
Kevla wrote:
Thank you Cynthia, thank you Veronica.
This has given me more confidence and hope.
But I do have a few more questions:
1) I am taking her to celebrate her birthday on radio by DJ’ing together (like I said in a previous post). I asked if she was excited, and her reply put me off guard as that is something I would say to my friends, she said “yeah man”, now I know I shouldn’t look into the current situation but I can’t get rid of this feeling of being friend zoned, does this matter? Will it mess up? How can I deal with this? Can she still change her mind?
2) How do I know when I am doing something or sending her txt by inspired action it’s not messing in the middle? Because sometimes after the action I wonder if it was the right thing to do, even though at the time I didn’t think much of it.
3) How do I deal with my anxiety during manifesting and visualising without messing up what I want?
Thanks for the support and advice, it means alot,
Kevla
You are being too analytical and worrying too much. She's already agreed to go out with you. It also seems like you are in a big rush. Why? Wouldn't you want to create the ideal, lasting relationship rather than something that falls short of that? Most of the time things happen in a natural way, which usually takes some time, especially things that last. Everything is created in your imagination first. The evidence comes after. Don't worry about that friend zone rubbish. Only imagine what you want and nothing less. Go to the end and stay there. There's nothing wrong with being friends first anyway, and staying close friends later with the person you are romantically involved with is a great thing. I can't think of anything better with respect to a romantic relationship than being married to one's best friend. Be patient.
Any time you take an action in an attempt to outwardly manipulate a situation directly, you are messing with the middle. Sustained imaginal acts are what create fa
Ex/Specific Person Discussion » Need help with my SP » 7/10/2020 1:21 pm |
Kevla wrote:
Thank you very much, I have been distancing myself with social media to the point of deleting the app through my phone. I still have to use it every so often as I have to promote my work through it (as a DJ and producer).
So far I have been slightly happier again. I have even manifested going mini golf with her yesterday. I even met her male friend the other day who turned out to be her childhood gay friend. So I was assuming wrong and overreacting (to my previous post).
Had such a blast, but the only thing now is that I want more with her? Is that normal? Don’t want to sound desperate.
And how is it going to leap forward and evolve? As we are still communicating very casually and friendly.
Many thanks,
Kevla
There is nothing desperate about wanting more than friendship. Just continue to live in and think from the end of the ideal, ultimate relationship you want to have with her, focus only on that, and don't worry about how it is going to come about. Also, don't try to work out what steps you think you need to take along the way. Don't mess with the middle or you can mess things up. Go straight to the end in your mind and stay there, and don't worry. Be patient.
I've mentioned this on a number of occasions before, but not to you. This was long before I ever discovered Neville. I married the person I wanted by imagining we were married and by wearing an imaginary wedding ring. We were in different countries at the time with minimal contact, writing to each other by snail mail, which is all there was at the time, probably about once each every month, and spoke briefly on the phone 2 or 3 times. It started out as more of a pen friendship than anything. I wasn't in any rush because I knew it would take me a while to get back to London again. When I returned to London and we were together in person, things fell into place very easily and naturally, it was less than 2 months before he asked me to marry him, and we got married a few months
Ex/Specific Person Discussion » Need help with my SP » 7/06/2020 6:39 pm |
Kevla wrote:
Hi Cynthia,
Thank you for the message and advice, It has really helped, I have been practicing more and more on Neville Goddard. Believe it or not I have been more at peace and happy, even other smaller things have manifested into my life.
I’ve bought the book of Neville Goddard the complete reader, but I have yet to start reading it.
Just an update, unfortunately today my SP posted something on social media with a male friend and my mind quickly assumes the worst. I admit I got very discouraged very easily and a little jealous. How do I avoid being discouraged so easily? I was doing so fine before.
Many thanks,
Kevla
I've got that book as well, and it's great, but it can only help you if you read it and do what he tells you.
Whatever you do, don't look at social media or anything else that is going to contradict what you are trying to manifest. That is so important. If you are trying to live in the end and imagine your desire as an accomplished fact, the last thing you need is anything that tells you that you don't have it and gives you worries and doubts that you can achieve your desire. Seriously, delete your account if that is what it takes. I don't do social media, but somebody who does sent me a screenshot last year that greatly interfered with my own work which had been effortless up until that happened, and the thing is, it could have been entirely bogus, but I had no way of knowing that. Whether it was true or not, it is only temporary, but it did give me a mental struggle that I hadn't had before, so avoid social media like the plague, or looking at it and seeing anything not to your liking will undermine you. It is bad enough that every day we are bombarded by distractions and people telling us it's not possible to manifest our desires without deliberately seeking things out that will also tell us these things or put doubts into our minds. We must be single minded and steadfast and ignore everything that is contrary to attai
Ex/Specific Person Discussion » Need help with my SP » 7/02/2020 5:00 am |
You are using the law of assumption against yourself by interpreting her actions or lack thereof as slights against you or disinterest in you. What you imagine creates what you experience. We are always imagining ahead of any outward evidence. The most creative thing in us is to imagine and believe a thing into existence. You need to live in and think from the end in your imagination of being together with your sp in exactly the sort of relationship you want it to be, feel like you would if it were already true and like you have it now, and have faith that your imaginal acts will create this. Be patient, persevere, and don't look for results or signs or do anything to attempt to manipulate the situation overtly, such as trying to convince anyone of anything, for example. Create the ideal relationship in your imagination only and don't worry about outward appearances.
I recommend that as a starting point you listen to Neville Goddard's Mental Diets, How to Use Your Imagination, and The Secret of Imagining, which can be found on youtube and will take less than an hour. The below link is my preferred channel for Neville's lectures because they are all in his own voice.
As far as I'm concerned, Neville's teachings are the gold standard, the best there are, and 100% effective when done correctly. I personally wouldn't waste my time doing anything else. If you need them to give you confidence, there are a lot of success stories in Neville's book, The Law and the Promise, which I suggest you read anyway, and also more recent ones on the Neville reddit.
LOA Questions and Teachings 🙋 » scripting -past tense/present tense/both » 6/26/2020 3:07 pm |
manifest888 wrote:
Cynthia wrote:
I would personally take the easiest option, which I would think would be your native language. (You also have a future tense mixed in there, by the way.) Scripting is one method of convincing your subconscious mind that you have your desire now, so the more real you can make it the better.
What I personally find more effective is to write a letter to myself from the other person telling me what I want to hear.Thank you Cynthia.
That's something new for me.
You're very welcome. It's a type of revision that Neville Goddard talked about. If you haven't heard of him, I highly recommend looking into his teachings. He didn't theorise about things, he taught from his personal experience, he spoke the truth, and of the people I know about who have discovered Neville and find out how easy to follow and how well his teachings work, including myself, they don't go back to anything else or look any further.
LOA Questions and Teachings 🙋 » scripting -past tense/present tense/both » 6/26/2020 1:16 pm |
I would personally take the easiest option, which I would think would be your native language. (You also have a future tense mixed in there, by the way.) Scripting is one method of convincing your subconscious mind that you have your desire now, so the more real you can make it the better.
What I personally find more effective is to write a letter to myself from the other person telling me what I want to hear.
Help me align please... 🙈 » You are possible. » 6/23/2020 12:52 pm |
'You are possible' isn't even English.What does that even mean?
Ex/Specific Person Discussion » Progress, then confusion » 6/23/2020 10:41 am |
yobsness wrote:
So my SP and I separated in Nov 2019, together for 6 months, due to my own emotional place at the time, it wasnt a bad breakup as we kept contact during Dec and January, however, I started getting obsessed with trying to fix things, which ended in me falling deeper into depression. Until one day I found Dr Joe Dispenza and started on his work, which has completed changed my life. Then started working on manifesting my SP back after I had got myself right.
Was switching between Dr Joe's work and manifesting techniques, when I had a breakthrough with my SP, when she reached out 3 weeks back, and ask if we could chat in the morning.When I saw the message my heart fluttered, much like the imaginational acts I had been practicing. We had a very easy chat for a bit the next day, and we left it there, continued to enjoy the feelings
.I then thought, what felt like an inspired action, sent a message to my SP asking, once the quarantine period is over, would she like to meet up for a drink. She responded with, "give me sometime to think about it", which I replied, of course.A few days later, I had found a interesting music tribute on Youtube, we shared similar music taste, and thought, I'd forward on the link to her, that was Tuesday, its now 3 weeks down the line, and the message has yet to be read.I'm trying to slow down the intensity of my imagination acts and techniques, as I feel it could be resisting and not allowing the process to flow, while trying to control my mental diet as a result of the non read message.
Now, i'm a little confused, and obviously my conscious monkey brain is running wild.I guess the question is, did I blow this? I have made a decision to leave it as it is, in this current reality and ignore the 3D, continuing to apply techniques, so should I ramp up, or slow down the techniques and try focus my energy elsewhere?
It is a strong imagination plus faith that will create your desire for you. Do nothing outwardly, live in
Neville Goddard » Everyone is you pushed out » 6/20/2020 7:47 pm |
It essentially means that you get what you expect or what you think you deserve from another person/other people/life in general and this could come from a subconscious belief you are not even aware of as well as from your conscious thinking. It also means that you can consciously create for another person, as well as for yourself.
You are the only one creating in your own reality because it is your own consciousness and your own imagination and you are the one who is in control. We're creating all the time whether we realise it or not, consciously or not.
Below are a few links by Neville which are a good starting point to his teachings, which in my experience and opinion are the best. He spoke the truth from his own experience and didn't theorise or make things up.
Mental Diets:
How to Use Your Imagination:
The Secret of Imagining:
Ex/Specific Person Discussion » I need Help!!! Time sensitive » 6/18/2020 12:13 am |
You don't let go of your desire. What you let go of is doubts, fears, worries, disbelief, anything negative that is causing a conflict in your mind with attaining your desire. I personally listen to (and read) Neville on a regular basis. That helps me more than anything. It's the best antidote I know of to the way most people think, which puts so much emphasis on outward appearances as though they are unchangeable facts. The more I have listened to him, the less significance outward appearances have had to me.
Yes, ignore everything that you perceive is happening in your outward experience and keep imagining things being exactly as you want them to be and that everything is already ideal, just the way you want things to be - i.e. live in the end. What is going on in your imagination is creating what you are experiencing, and it can take some time for the outer world to change in response to your inner world changing.
For heavens sake, do yourself (and her) a big favour and stop trying to analyse everything she says and does and instead imagine her doing and saying exactly what it is you want her to say and do. Don't take things personally and use that as ammunition against yourself. For example, if she says she is busy, don't read something into it that isn't there and interpret that to mean she doesn't want anything to do with you, accept that she's busy. You'll save yourself a lot of grief that way.
Neville talked a lot about the law of assumption. You can either assume the best or assume the worst, assume things as being the way you want them to be, even though there may not yet be any outward, tangible evidence of that, or that they aren't the way you want them to be, and the one you choose and focus on is the one you'll get. The assumption, the belief, comes before the event. One believes things into existence. That saying 'I'll believe it when I see it' is opposite to the way things work. Youy'll see it when you believe it. Be consistent. Consiste