Kevla wrote:

Thank you very much, I have been distancing myself with social media to the point of deleting the app through my phone. I still have to use it every so often as I have to promote my work through it (as a DJ and producer).

So far I have been slightly happier again. I have even manifested going mini golf with her yesterday. I even met her male friend the other day who turned out to be her childhood gay friend. So I was assuming wrong and overreacting (to my previous post).

Had such a blast, but the only thing now is that I want more with her? Is that normal? Don’t want to sound desperate.

And how is it going to leap forward and evolve? As we are still communicating very casually and friendly.

Many thanks,

Kevla

 
There is nothing desperate about wanting more than friendship. Just continue to live in and think from the end of the ideal, ultimate relationship you want to have with her, focus only on that, and don't worry about how it is going to come about. Also, don't try to work out what steps you think you need to take along the way. Don't mess with the middle or you can mess things up. Go straight to the end in your mind and stay there, and don't worry. Be patient.

I've mentioned this on a number of occasions before, but not to you. This was long before I ever discovered Neville. I married the person I wanted by imagining we were married and by wearing an imaginary wedding ring. We were in different countries at the time with minimal contact, writing to each other by snail mail, which is all there was at the time, probably about once each every month, and spoke briefly on the phone 2 or 3 times. It started out as more of a pen friendship than anything. I wasn't in any rush because I knew it would take me a while to get back to London again. When I returned to London and we were together in person, things fell into place very easily and naturally, it was less than 2 months before he asked me to marry him, and we got married a few months

You are using the law of assumption against yourself by interpreting her actions or lack thereof as slights against you or disinterest in you. What you imagine creates what you experience. We are always imagining ahead of any outward evidence. The most creative thing in us is to imagine and believe a thing into existence. You need to live in and think from the end in your imagination of being together with your sp in exactly the sort of relationship you want it to be, feel like you would if it were already true and like you have it now, and have faith that your imaginal acts will create this. Be patient,  persevere, and don't look for results or signs or do anything to attempt to manipulate the situation overtly, such as trying to convince anyone of anything, for example. Create the ideal relationship in your imagination only and don't worry about outward appearances.

I recommend that as a starting point you listen to Neville Goddard's Mental Diets, How to Use Your Imagination, and The Secret of Imagining, which can be found on youtube and will take less than an hour. The below link is my preferred channel for Neville's lectures because they are all in his own voice.

https://m.youtube.com/user/100kwatt

As far as I'm concerned, Neville's teachings are the gold standard, the best there are, and 100% effective when done correctly. I personally wouldn't waste my time doing anything else. If you need them to give you confidence, there are a lot of success stories in Neville's book, The Law and the Promise, which I suggest you read anyway, and also more recent ones on the Neville reddit.

I would personally take the easiest option, which I would think would be your native language. (You also have a future tense mixed in there, by the way.) Scripting is one method of convincing your subconscious mind that you have your desire now, so the more real you can make it the better.

What I personally find more effective is to write a letter to myself from the other person telling me what I want to hear.

yobsness wrote:

So my SP and I separated in Nov 2019, together for 6 months, due to my own emotional place at the time, it wasnt a bad breakup as we kept contact during Dec and January, however, I started getting obsessed with trying to fix things, which ended in me falling deeper into depression. Until one day I found Dr Joe Dispenza and started on his work, which has completed changed my life. Then started working on manifesting my SP back after I had got myself right.

Was switching between Dr Joe's work and manifesting techniques, when I had a breakthrough with my SP, when she reached out 3 weeks back, and ask if we could chat in the morning.When I saw the message my heart fluttered, much like the imaginational acts I had been practicing. We had a very easy chat for a bit the next day, and we left it there, continued to enjoy the feelings

.I then thought, what felt like an inspired action, sent a message to my SP asking, once the quarantine period is over, would she like to meet up for a drink. She responded with, "give me sometime to think about it", which I replied, of course.A few days later, I had found a interesting music tribute on Youtube, we shared similar music taste, and thought, I'd forward on the link to her, that was Tuesday, its now 3 weeks down the line, and the message has yet to be read.I'm trying to slow down the intensity of my imagination acts and techniques, as I feel it could be resisting and not allowing the process to flow, while trying to control my mental diet as a result of the non read message.

Now, i'm a little confused, and obviously my conscious monkey brain is running wild.I guess the question is, did I blow this? I have made a decision to leave it as it is, in this current reality and ignore the 3D, continuing to apply techniques, so should I ramp up, or slow down the techniques and try focus my energy elsewhere?

 
It is a strong imagination plus faith that will create your desire for you. Do nothing outwardly, live in

You don't let go of your desire. What you let go of is doubts, fears, worries, disbelief, anything negative that is causing a conflict in your mind with attaining your desire. I personally listen to (and read) Neville on a regular basis. That helps me more than anything. It's the best antidote I know of to the way most people think, which puts so much emphasis on outward appearances as though they are  unchangeable facts. The more I have listened to him, the less significance outward appearances have had to me.

Yes, ignore everything that you perceive is happening in your outward experience and keep imagining things being exactly as you want them to be and that everything is already ideal, just the way you want things to be - i.e. live in the end. What is going on in your imagination is creating what you are experiencing, and it can take some time for the outer world to change in response to your inner world changing.

For heavens sake, do yourself (and her) a big favour and stop trying to analyse everything she says and does and instead imagine her doing and saying exactly what it is you want her to say and do. Don't take things personally and use that as ammunition against yourself. For example, if she says she is busy, don't read something into it that isn't there and interpret that to mean she doesn't want anything to do with you, accept that she's busy. You'll save yourself a lot of grief that way.

Neville talked a lot about the law of assumption. You can either assume the best or assume the worst, assume things as being the way you want them to be, even though there may not yet be any outward, tangible evidence of that, or that they aren't the way you want them to be, and the one you choose and focus on is the one you'll get. The assumption, the belief, comes before the event. One believes things into existence. That saying 'I'll believe it when I see it' is opposite to the way things work. Youy'll see it when you believe it. Be consistent. Consiste