Hey guys! I'm going to keep this short because I don't want to give this too much energy, but I'm looking for some uplifting words of advice right now.

Backstory: My love ended things with me in April 2017 saying that we could never be in a relationship. He started seeing someone very shortly after. It hurt and I tried to not give it my attention as much as possible; although, I was still constantly checking social media to find any info I could on the status of their relationship. (As I'm typing this I'm realizing how destructive that was.) Anyway months went by and they were still seeing each other. Last night I checked his social media and he posted a picture of him looking at her very lovingly and she commented "I hope you look at me like that forever".

I'm very numb right now, but I'm also trying to just move on and stay positive. Laura (TheHappinessCoach) says that if you're looking at something with your physical eye it's old news, a past manifestation. So that's what I'm taking this as.

I've spoken with a psychic I trust who is very sure that he will come back. She says that he will come back and we will be in a restored relationship before the end of the year and that I shouldn't focus on timing, but on what is to come moving on. I don't see how in the world we could be together by Christmas since he's clearly in a loving relationship, but I don't need to know how, right?

If you have any success stories of getting together with your person regardless of the circumstances or even just positive words of advice in general that would really help. Thanks in advance

Wow. It's crazy how similar our stories are. I also consider myself a "late bloomer". I've only had two serious relationships. The second ended badly. He ended it extremely thoughtlessly. We don't communicate or interact and haven't for a few months now. I've learned a lot of lessons from the experience and have gained A LOT of love and respect for myself, but I still want him back. I even get upset with myself for wanting him back because I absolutely know I deserve better. As much as I pray to God for his help on releasing my desire for my ex, I can't shake the desire. What has helped me is simple self care activities, YouTube videos (DanRadioStyle, Be A Good Soul, etc.) and being a light/blessing in others lives. Those things bring me a lot of joy. Find what brings you joy and do a lot of it.

Also, frequently remind yourself how much of a catch your are and how anyone would be lucky to be with you because it's the truth. You deserve happiness and whatever it is that you desire. If you want him back, you can attract a wonderful new relationship with him. Do the spiritual work, ask God to reveal the lessons you need to learn, make peace with the past (it's no longer relevant, so you shouldn't worry about it) and let it go. He will come back.

I think being honest with yourself is great. Allow yourself to feel what you need to feel so that you can release that resistance. I don't know if your'e obsessed with everything, but you may be feeling overwhelmed and exhausted with all of the emotions. I'd lay off of all techniques you're doing (if you're doing any) and just focus on only doing what feels good, whatever that is for you.

Hopefully this helps. You'll overcome this. <3

My love ended things with me in the middle of April 2017. By the beginning of May I found out he was with someone else and it crushed me. I was so devastated. A few weeks ago, I found out she moved to Texas to start a new chapter of her life. I really believe my positive thoughts and good feeling vibes are shifting my situation. What really helped me was thinking "if I attracted this, I can attract the opposite." Also, I frequently meditate on my desire and each time I just get more clear and sure of my feeling that him and I are meant to be with each other. That makes me feel really good because I know this desire is coming from a force more powerful than me. 

I have low moments from time to time, especially when my physical reality contradicts what I feel in my heart, but those tough moments have only made me stronger. 

Hope this helps

80saeaak wrote:

mrkrantz wrote:

Havefaith91 wrote:

There are many guided meditations on YouTube. I follow Agnes. She is really good. There are meditations for a lot of things. Rubbing out, sending love to your love, self love, and a few others. Check her out. I like to switch things up time to time but there are so RS meditations on there too.

I want something good that takes me into the vortex and makes me focused on what i want etc...PLEASE give me some advice or tips...people must know??! How do you meditate in to the vortex guys?!
 

I don't meditate to get there. Meditation just helps me center and keep my sweet spot. I start the day writing what I'm grateful for. I used to struggle with a list of ten things. Now I can fill a sheet writing like a maniac for three minutes. Then as I'm going through the day I live in the moment and feel genuine gratitude and appreciation for everything in that moment. It's not as complicated as a technique for me. It's just a state of being.

I couldn't agree with you more 80saeaak

1. Yes there is. 
2. I think contrast is inevitable. While it absolutely sucks at the time it occurs, I believe it's shows up because there is something that needs to be worked on. That something isn't always obvious, but the journey to finding out and fixing it is so rewarding and enlightening.