I've spent a lot of this evening reading Cherished's posts here on the forum. She's not active anymore (and hasn't been active for some time), but she has posted a lot of REALLY great messages. They've helped raise my vibe and belief so I thought I'd post this and maybe her words can help someone else. The link is below. Enjoy!

http://veronicaloa.boardhost.com/search.php?search_id=1153753763&p=1

Hi again guys!

I've been intentionally trying to manifest my love back since we split in April 2017. I unintentionally manifested him back twice before April 2017 and thought this time would be no different. In fact, I thought it'd be easier because I now know about the LOA. In this case, I think too much information was a bad thing. I became obsessed and was in a constant state of lack, worry, fear, desperation, anxiety etc. I was always checking social media and trying to micromanage the situation instead of believing and allowing. My absolute worst fear came true this past Sunday when he made it official to the world that he's dating another girl by posting a picture of them on Instagram.

Now I'm struggling with the belief that 1) it's possible and 2) it's right to manifest him back into my life because he's happily in love with another woman. If I manifest him back, what about her? I don't want to cause her any pain. Although I manifested many parts of this third party and subsequent relationship, maybe this is the Universe telling me I can't have it, to give up and move on. Maybe this is its way of forcing me to let go so that it can manifest.

What do you all think? Is it now wrong to manifest him back? Is it not going to happen now that he's completely moved on? What are your thoughts on manifesting someone who's in a relationship with another?

Sidenote: I've REALLY let go since seeing the picture. I've stopped listening to LOA YouTube videos and constantly thinking about manifesting him. (I used to listen/watch videos every time I was in the car and all night after I came home from work). I've decided to apply to graduate school and am finding other ways to get my mind off of it. It hurts to know that he's with her, but I've asked God for strength and peace. I'm on Day 3 of Veronica's challenge, but I'm doing it more with the intention to get really happy, not to attract him back.

I did this. I checked my guy's instagram everyday, sometimes multiple times a day, for a few weeks hoping that he wouldn't post a picture with the girl he's dating because, to me, posting on instagram makes it official. Well, this past Sunday I checked his profile like I always did and there was the picture. I was devastated, but I've accepted reality. I created it. Right when I saw the picture, I knew what I'd done and have since decided to stay off social media all together. 

Now, I'm working on creating something different, something better, something positive, something that I actually want. You can do the same. LOA is ALWAYS working. 

Me!!!! I'm on Day 1. This is my first time doing the challenge. I'm excited to love myself even more and become a much happier person

I read a success story on the secret website where a woman said being conflicted about wanting her man back is what was blocking her manifestation. And once she decided that she definitely wanted him and put in the self love work to bring him in, there he was.

When you think about it like that, she's right. If your desire and feelings waiver, and you 100% always manifest what you desire and feel, you're only manifesting more confusion. I do the exact same thing. My heart wants my guy, but when I get on self love high I tell myself that it's wrong to want him and I try to talk myself out of it. Now I'm working on embracing my truth and not being ashamed of it, no matter my state of mind. You can do it too!