PrettyFlamingo wrote:

80saeaak wrote:

She spent some time with you, but not enough to warrant strong feelings. Maybe she did drive a long way, make a gift, and cook dinner. I've done that before and realized this person isn't what I imagined them to be. Not every connection is supposed to be pursued. Sometimes you just meet people and think "this isn't it" and move forward without ever seeing them again.

I see what you mean, but to be fair, the woman went way over the top from the beginning and I could see how he would have found this an encouragement. No way in hell would I drive for 2.5 hours to meet someone I had never met in real life, take them presents or cook them a meal. I would have to know someone a bit better than to do that. To me, that is simple rules of safety (physical and safety of your emotions). That's no reflection on the person you are meeting, but just common sense to me. 



 

Honestly, I think the meeting a stranger is neither here nor there. Some people do that. Some people don't have adult "stranger danger" sensibility. Me? No. I don't meet anyone from online and certainly wouldn't go to someone's home (or invite them to mine) without knowing them. A friend of mine went on a date with someone she met on a WebTV forum back in the early 2000s. They had a great date, she invited him back to her house for a drink, and he brutally raped her. People are scary. That's besides the point, though.

The fact of the matter is that she may have been VERY into him based on their online interaction, but upon meeting him decided there was something that didn't "vibe". I've dated people I've hung out with in group settings, but once we were alone I saw something that turned me off enough to be a deal breaker. It just happens sometimes. More times than not, honestly. I'm very funny like that. I don't date for the fun of getting dating experience. If I don't see potential for something long-term, I move along. I'm also a little older so my w

I see this question a lot. "Why isn't it working? Why is it taking so long? If law of attraction doesn't work every time it must not be real." Interesting ideas that I can totally get behind.

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sillyromantic wrote:

Hi everyone, I need your advice, or maybe even just get things off my chest..
My ex and I broke up 2 months ago and had no contact since pretty much. When we ended things he told me he was going to go be with his friend that was always crushing on him in order to get over me and he cried a lot. It was really emotional and intense.
We had no contact and I have been doing better, staying busy, more social, working on me and happier, even gone out on a couple of dates but I still think about him often. Today a coworker that is friends with him on facebook showed me that he changed his relationship status to a relationship with that friend pretty much the day after we broke up and he's posting all these happy photos with her now and it crushed me more than I expected. I want so badly for this not to affect me and ruin the work I've been doing on my own energy and being positive and happy but I'm feeling sad, confused and upset today. What do I do to get out of this funk and not think so much about them being happy together? I deleted him from my phone today and on skype. Don't want any reminders..

Mine did that. He basically stopped talking to me and rushed into something with a woman I remember being suspicious of. First thing I did was I told all of my mutual friends to stop telling me anything. Unless he's hurt or dying, I don't care. I quit looking at social media altogether for a few weeks. Then I just learned not to look at his social media. That wasn't too hard because he's a private guy. Even on his public pages he never shared anything too personal so that's a bonus for me. I went far enough to block his girl and his ex so I didn't have to accidentally see something any mutual friends liked. I started meditating a lot and did a chi healing session. The healing session is what really got me into a wonderful state of unbotheredness. I highly recommend chi or Reiki to anyone, but especially those dealing with suffering. The pain hit me

iinikkii wrote:

I guess maybe I just don't know how to get to that place of loving myself..none of this makes sense to me

Go on YouTube and look up positive affirmations. Jason stephenson has great ones. Self love meditations help.

I disagree that self love doesn't help or hurt manifestations. When you're not in a good place and appreciative of what you have, things go awry. You can lose anything no matter how much you want it if you can't find happiness within yourself and what you already have. That's not to say that you can't have great moments, but negative breeds more negative. That's the whole basis for LOA.

Blossom1 wrote:

have you tried chakra healing, reiki etc it's really helped me, I'm surprised how little its recommend or discussed on this forum - reiki and law of attraction go hand in hand as they both work with your intentions.reiki will help with your self limiting beliefs, and the healing energy will go to where healing is mostly needed at a subconscious levelI'm being attuned in the summer as its changed my life and outlook so much after having sessions from a local healer but you can find lots reiki healing vids on youtube - its free, so got nothing to lose x PS. you can also make a reiki intention box to manifest your goals, too detailed to go into here - google it for instructions x

It's cool that you brought this up because I never see it on these forums. I use a chi healer and it has made me feel incredible. Not even to manifest, but more for the letting go part of it. She's taught me techniques to release my negative energy and just be without emotion. Very cool.

If I may, OP, I don't think the problem is failure to believe, but more failure to be able to let go. That's when it happens. You read on this forum a lot of people telling each other not to give up and not to stop the techniques, but it's rare that you see people say "let it go and move on". That's one of the most important steps. Maybe THE most important part. Not even giving up, but letting it go and not caring that it's not there yet.

A watched pot never boils.