Totally agree I didnt find this out until I was able to get my independence back and moved back out of my parents house after a world changing split from my ex wife. Once I moved into my new home, it was the first time as an adult that I lived alone yet I was 33 at the time.

Being alone was one of the most important things i had done in my life. After such  a traumatic 2 years, being able to concentrate on myself truly was a life changing experience. This allowed me to find who I am, what I am about, and who I wanted to be. Once this happened, I had such a more fulfilling purpose in life. Being able to read the Law of One and other transcripts honed my purpose and my desires of who I wanted to be without distractions.

Once this all happened I actually was perfectly fine being alone. I didnt have an interest in a mate. I had my daughter every other weekend and I had my work which allowed my service to prosper and thats all I wanted. Once the opportunity arose for a mate, it wasnt because I needed it or desired it really. It just happened and allowed me to put myself fully into the moment without the loneliness that many suffer when the desire to find a mate comes about. It was something that happened because the time was right and I have no one to thank except myself for truly being able to find myself during a very dark time.