So I'm sure the answer to this is "yes" but I'm not sure how to go about this. Can you use law of attraction for someone to recognize their addictions and make efforts to stop them? Even if they said they weren't addicted to anything, would never quit, and use very heavily to the point where they rather drink and smoke pot on the weekends alone then come to your house and spend time with you? 
Please help! 

Ok so here's the situation.....

I met a man on New Year's Eve that I had been talking to online only a couple days before. I hadn't been on a date since my significant other passed away 3 years ago but somehow felt a pull to agree to meet up with this guy. The date went well and we ended up going back to his house that night, something I was not at all intending to do, but since I didn't want the night to end, I agreed to it. We ended up connecting crazy well and went all the way that night, something I have never done before. 
The next morning he asked for another go, and I said I needed a nap because I'm partially blind and my eyes aren't used to being up all night, but he laughed and ended up on top of me anyways. I started crying and he eventually got off, and we talked about my previous relationship with the man who passed away and he sincerely said he wasn't trying to replace him, but wanted to do better than him. I thought it was very sweet, and my previous boyfriend was truly an amazing person.
We met up a few days later and to my surprise he told me he loved me and that I might be the one he buys a wedding ring for one day. I said I loved him too because I felt it, but how fast things were moving were very unexpected. We ended up connecting deeply again, and I shared I had wrote down a list on all the things I wanted in a partner a few months before meeting him, and he had them all. He also shared he had a dream about me a few years before and knew instantly when we met that I was the one in the dream.
I had plans to spend a few months across the country in Cali, and when I told him, I was quite nervous. He was surprisingly fine with it and said he didn't mind waiting because he saw a future with me. I ended up missing my flight because I got very ill, had a UTI and a strong reaction to bacterias in his house he seems to be immune too, and my eyes were deeply effected by his cigarette smoke because my retina is more sensitive than most. He said he would t

Ok here's the story:
I first met a man a year abd a half ago and I was not initally attracted to him (I wasn't looking for anything other than friends because my last relationship ended because he died and I was crazy about him.) After I got to know a little more about this man and realized what he was all about, I started to care very deeply for him. I knew he cared about me but I also didn't think he saw me as more than a friend, so I let it go. This past year we would message occasionally but I initiated everytime time but once. The messages were always super nice but didn't really go anywhere. I spent 2 months in his ciry this year for a completely unrelated reason, but I assumed we'd hang out. When I told him I'd be in town, he unfortunately was gonna be away the whole time and I literally just missed him. So this last summer I met a mutual friend and he came up. I was telling her how he was super kind and supportive last year about my previous boyfriend who passed away. Her reaction was very unexpected. She literally yelled at me that I wasn't more in contact with him and demanded I get his number, and told me he wants to care for me. Not because he said this, but because she just knows. To clarify, we were not talking romantically and I don't think this friend even knows I think of him like that. But her reaction through me off so much that I went completely out of my comfort zone and asked for his number and to catch up over the phone. It worked well and it was wonderful to hear from you him. We even discovered he'd be coming to the town I just moved to and because of this phone call we got s chance to hang out. However, he mentioned a girlfriend briefly before the phone call ended and their plans to move in together in a few months. Basically, I'm super thankful for his friendship and I'm happy if he's happy and found someone great and I care about her too and am happy for her although I don't know her. I'm just incredibly overwhelmed because his man WILl N