Cynthia wrote:

I never thought about anything but the end result. I imagined us being married and didn't create any obstacles in my mind to that happening. It only took over a year because I was away for that period of time, in a different country. I knew nothing was going to happen until I returned, so I didn't worry about it or stress about it. We had no commitment to each other, so I didn't know if he'd met somebody else in the meantime, but I didn't even think about that. It wouldn't have mattered anyway.

I've told people who do social media numerous times now, don't look at the other person's if it is going to upset you or reinforce a current reality that is different to your desire or do anything else that reminds you that you don't currently have your desire. Some of them just can't tear themselves away and distress themselves over and over and create bigger and bigger obstacles in their mind to having their desire. They don't seem to see that they are doing this to themselves, and these are the people who ultimately fail and say that it is not possible to consciously create one's own reality. They decided that it was impossible for themselves, so it will always be impossible for them until they change that belief, but it is fully possible for those who believe they can do it. We're all creating our lives all of the time, not just when we want something, so if we're not doing it consciously we are doing it unconsciously, sort of letting the chips fall where they may.  The better option is obviously to create the lives we want since we are our only opponents.

I must say Cynthia you were really so so strong.You were truly living in the end result and no doubt thats why you got what you wanted
I guess i have lots of things to learn and to work on. But i know i can do it. Thanks for sharing your experience . It has been so helpful.
 

Anita wrote:

and I hate this sarcastic answers... I never asked about reserve technique before. So I ask now. And everybody tell I have to just listen neville or read his books. but in my country his books isn't translate and his words are hard understand. So I wanted easier answers...yes people ask still the same thing, because we were learned opossite...and all this things are hard believe. and ii is hard believe that I just have to live that nothing bad doesnt happen and it will remove. Because aometimes people remember words and situations many years even thought we already forget about it..

Hi Anita, i understand that you are still new to the concept of LOA and therefore it is hard for you to believe. But LOA is not some magic trick that will help you to get your specific person back in a short period of time. The key to LOA is to have faith and be patient. Just like we have faith in God, you must have faith that your person will be back. But i understand this is the most difficult part to implement - to have trust and faith when the current reality is something different. I dont know your story, may be you have broken up recently and you want your person back as soon as possible but trust me things which happen to us faster, we also lose them faster as well. But things that we achieve, by practicing patience, lasts longer and gives us more contentment and satisfaction because we have achieved that thing after a long period of time and after fighting a long battle.
In your case, right now, you are lacking patience and you want immediate result, if this is what you want then sorry LOA is not your thing then. As Cynthia said, she has waited for a long year,imagining she is already married, with minimal contact from her specific person. I know this sounds so hard but yes she did it because she had complete faith in it. So if you think that you really want your specific person, if you really think he is the love of your life then just keep faith and believe

Cynthia wrote:

Sohini wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Patience IS very important. I had to learn patience from a very young age because I was kept waiting for everything, if I ever even got it, so I'm pretty good at being patient most of the time.
Don't worry about 'keeping your vibrations high'  or clearing your wardrobe space. Feel like you have the relationship you want right now, make it real in your mind, feel it real, it's not an emotional feeling, it's the feeling of having it now. If it helped, you could create a scene in your mind that represented what you wanted your relationship to be like. Don't worry about anything.. This isn't hard. Try to forget about a lot of that 'LOA' nonsense you've read. Judging by things you've said, I know you've done that. Get out of your own way. I have to tell myself that, too, sometimes. We stand in our own ways and block our own good.

Sanshi just wrote a lengthy post earlier today that is a great post about how she found out what worked for her and what didn't and why and how to change that. You should read that one for sure and take it to heart.
 

Cynthia thanks a lot for being so helpful. There are really lots of stuffs on internet about Loa and this confuses me more. But what you said is correct. I also just now read the post by Sanshi and it is so well written!
I will just now focus on living in the end because this is what i am not doing right now. If you and others could have done it then ofcourse i can also. Thanks again Cynthia for the motivation
 

Good. That's what you need to do is live in the end in your mind of having the relationship right now. Doing things like telling your friends that you will soon reconcile is not living in the end. Being reconciled and having the relationship with the person is living in the end.

That is a great post by Sanshi, and English isn't even her first language, so I really admire her for being able to communicate so well and to go to the trouble of doing that.[/quot

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